Homebirth General Discussion #15

[Arimeh]

Thanks Cricket. My biggest issue is behaviour wise, my kids are pretty challenging and I have a short temper as does DH, so there is a lot of yelling in this house most days, which I absolutely HATE. My kids just seem to hate each other most days, and I'm probably really sensitive about all the fighting. I know kids fight but I hate hearing it, and the whinging afterwards, and they just seem to do it deliberately to make the other ones suffer. I grew up with an older sister who made my life hell most of the time and I didn't want that for my own children, but it seems they do it and it makes my heart ache that I can't stop it.

We are introducing the 10 second rule for myself and DH because we both have such bad tempers, we count to 10 now before we speak to the kids if they are doing something mean or something they aren't supposed to. At least that helps me get a pleasant tone in my voice instead of screaming like a banshee. But when they wake you up at 5am with their fighting over a stupid toy, and you've had a late night because of gall bladder issues or a toddler who wants to get up and play - its the absolute worst way to wake up in the morning and I just want them to leave me alone lol

[Bella29]

Hugs arimeh... No advice, but I can understand why you would hate that.

[Arimeh]

Thanks Bella. I just realised my post had nothing to do with homebirthing so I can delete it if the mods feel its inappropriate.

I'll say something homebirthy now - um, I saw my cousin yesterday from tassie and she asked if I was having a homebirth and I was like yup! She seemed a little surprised but nothing negative was said, so at least one person is supportive!

Chiro on Wednesday to try and get baby in a better position for birthing since he can't come out my hip, and midwife appointment on Friday.

That's my sum up.

[Bella29]

Oh pooh to not mentioning Hb in every post . Lol! Surely we are allowed to all just talk as Hb mammas about life as well. Xx. Good luck with your chiro. Who are you using?

[Arimeh]

Embrace Life at North Lakes? Leasha recommended them to me, and I went to one in Caboolture before I was pregnant to work on some back issues and they were hopeless. At least Embrace Life do websters technique and they also have midwives in their centre. I actually contacted them about a homebirth when I was first researching it, but they were 5 grand for their homebirth, and Mary was a LOT cheaper so I went with her LOL

[HotI]

Good to see you back Bella29. You make beautiful kids, best wishes for a short ttc journey.

I really struggled the first 4 - 6 months with having 2 kids. I guess i am preparing for it to be rough, and then bonus if it is easier this time. DD will be at kinder, and DS is cruisier when she is not here, so it might be ok.

dh and i both come from families of 5 kids, but we are happy to stop at 3. Plenty of great things growing up in a big family.

[Bella29]

Thanks hot1, that is very sweet of you to say. . I think they are pretty sweet to. Tbh I am slightly more worried about the two-three transition. I didn't have a hard time with no two, mostly cos she practically slept for 18 hrs a day the first 12. Months. If not 18 then it was 20! Crazy kid used to have to be woken at 10 am just so I could do stuff. But dd1 was different so I am pretty sure I won't get that lucky again. And that will be tough.

Arimeh, what does Mary charge if you don't mind my asking? Always interested to know what the going rates are locally.

[HotI]

if i get a child that sleeps, i will have no idea what to do. Luckily my other 2 will keep me up to continue my 3 year no sleep campaign

[Arimeh]

So far I have paid (and still have to pay):
$1275 for insurance and some other stuff - you get some back from medicare though (can't remember how much I got back, it wasn't much because I hadn't hit the threshold thingy)
$75 per appointment - I get about $68 back from medicare each appointment. I had an appointment at 11 weeks that they didn't charge me for, and then one at 15 weeks, 20 weeks, etc. I'm onto weekly appointments after my next one though, but I think they start coming to me. I will also get charged travel expenses because technically I'm not on the Sunshine Coast.
$2000 for the birth. Which obviously you pay after the birth. And you don't get any back from medicare.

[Bella29]

Thanks arimeh. That's good to know.

[Jennifer13]

For those on family sizings - I think once you have children who are a bit older they become a lot less labour intensive. While DD1 gives me attitude and some days I could do without her defiance, on the whole she's responsible and mature for her age. She also takes DD2 outside and the two of them play for ages without any input from me. She's very good with DD2 and while DD2 probably doesn't get her way quite as much with DD1, that's probably good for her! Plus, she adores her older sister and can't wait to go and play with her. With DD1, I was the playmate and constantly in demand. So while I don't have five for comparison, I can definitely vouch for the fact that it changes as they get older. Less tiring. And they can do chores and things, helping out is expected in our family too.

I was thrown by the close gap for these two and would never have chosen it. I still am mildly freaked about it, although mostly just avoiding thinking about it at all now. But DP and I are open to the possibility of a fourth, maybe, one day, depending on how things go this time around and with family life in general. Let's just say, we won't be taking permanent steps to prevent it happening (although I can promise you now that contraception will be an absolute priority until 2016!!). I really, really hope that despite the close gap, number three is a relatively easy transition. Like Arimeh, I'm less worried about getting them here and more worried about parenting afterwards!

Welcome Bella and GL with swaying! I suck at swaying and conceiving boys, so I'm only useful if you'd like to know what not to do. Mind you, we only tried it when TTC DD2, so I'm no expert.

[Lily Dust]

Thanks Bella. I just realised my post had nothing to do with homebirthing so I can delete it if the mods feel its inappropriate.

Tsk tsk tsk, what were you thinking not living and breathing HB every second I can let it slide just this once

[Arimeh]

LOL thanks Lily Dust, I'll try to restrain myself next time

[Eenee]

I'll have 3 under 3...quietly freaking out! I want more too (crazy) but DH does not (he said he'd consider it if I didn't go crazy-PND). I don't have any family around and DH works long hours and 6days a week so I pretty much do most on my own and it's tough. Mind you I could give birth every other day if I was allowed.

[Cricket]

My kids just seem to hate each other most days, and I'm probably really sensitive about all the fighting. I know kids fight but I hate hearing it, and the whinging afterwards, and they just seem to do it deliberately to make the other ones suffer. I grew up with an older sister who made my life hell most of the time and I didn't want that for my own children, but it seems they do it and it makes my heart ache that I can't stop it.
But when they wake you up at 5am with their fighting over a stupid toy, and you've had a late night because of gall bladder issues or a toddler who wants to get up and play - its the absolute worst way to wake up in the morning and I just want them to leave me alone lol

Awww, I'm so sorry to hear that your kids are giving you such a hard time right now. I really hope this is just a phase that they're going through and that soon things will be a little more peaceful. I really hate fighting and whining too. Makes the day miserable for everyone. I don't have any magic words, but you definitely have my sympathy - we've had days like that, and they stink.

[*The_Mrs.*]

Cricket I am actually a hand weaver I make handwoven baby wraps! I do love my baby wearing and it saves me!

[*The_Mrs.*]

I had my chiro appt a couple days ago and I noticed a huge difference in baby F's movement...she can move more! I don't know if I told you ladies already but I have a pretty severe bicornuate uterus making it almost two complete uterus. So with my last little lady she was breech and couldn't really move from about 32 weeks on so I'm seeing a chiro early in hopes to help baby to stay head down before space runs out!

[Cricket]

I wonder if a trip to the chiropractor would help get my little guy over onto the left side. Seems like the more I try to encourage him over there, the more firmly he sticks to the right side! He used to do a lot more rolling from one side to the other, and now it seems like he's either ROA, or fully posterior. I know I've had babies do this before, and they flipped in labour without trouble, but I guess after DS was born in such a lousy position, I'm a little more nervous about it!
The older girls are all gone now - the house is very quiet, and I've been trying to get as much cleaning and organizing done as I can. Hope it lasts until baby is born! Got the cradle all ready to go now, with a little outfit, hat, and blankets sitting in it waiting for baby.... Love to go look at it every once in a while. Hopefully going to get a car seat blanket sewn this afternoon so that my baby doesn't have to travel like Prince George.
How is everyone else doing?