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Welcome Special!
Arimeh, could it be labour starting? Hope the runs are short lived.
Special, i have seen some gorgeous birth photos and vids, but i also don't want too many people around when i birth. I would like photos, but i would also like to look gorgeous like the photos i have seen, and i don't think i really look that glamorous during pregnancy or birth. I have considered setting my own vid camera up, basically just for my own benefit to take a look later but with no intention for anybody else to ever see it.
it's a bit wierd but i actually think alot about what i am going to wear so that i can get at least one good photo. Also have to remind dh to actually take some!
Arimeh, remember that you won't start to labour when your body feels unwell. The stress of it will stop the flow of your labour hormones. What gestation do you normally give birth at?
Special, I did. I had Georgia video my birth, from documenting delight. She really u dee stood being unobtrusive, and later my Mw and hubby were really surprised at the shots she got, because we were mostly unaware of her presence. That's what a photographer who understands birth does. An ordinary photographer can interfere with your space and could wreck it. Actually bellybelly wrote an article about it a short while ago. You could google.
Bella - nearly 42 weeks usually. I didn't go into labour with DD1 so she was a repeat c-section, and then DD2 came at 12 days over, and DD3 at 11 days over. So I'm not expecting to go early, just sucks at the timing of this crap.
HotI - I wish! The burning feeling in my stomach was the first clue that it wasn't my gallbladder acting up as usual or just clearing out for labour. Nope - its gastro! And DD3 has a really stinky bum at the moment, so I've got a feeling that she's got the same bug.
I've had some toast with honey on it this morning, can't remember what you are supposed to eat or not eat when you have gastro. My brain is totally fried and my house is a mess and I'm on my own today because DH starts his new job at the hospital!
Bella, your vid is just gorgeous.
I would come and cheer you up with a house call arimeh, but I just still feel knackered from a combination of jet lag and early pregnancy fatigue. Dd2 had a rough night. Dh is back at work today for the first time in a month, so we are gonna chill out for awhile and then do some cleaning up. Hope you feel better soon.
And thanks Hot1. I think I was really blessed with what she captured. As much as anything it was a snapshot of our family in that moment.
Haha thanks Bella, I think its in everyone's best interests if they stay away from my house at the moment lol
Luckily the other three kids don't seem to have any issues, so I'm hoping its just me and DD3.
You can eat whatever you feel like. It's just usually people prefer bland food coz its not so bad coming back up. And I'd recommend you steer clear of food that'll upset your gall bladder especially, as you don't want issues with that on top of the gastro. I really hope you're feeling better soon. I hate gastro, and to have it at 38.5w pg is no fun, especially with 4 kids to look after. Lots of hugs.:
Thank you, this is really helpful. :):
My sister is coming to video and take photos this time and videoing is her job. She'll also be the girls' support person, so two birds with one stone, so to speak. Last time anyone standing around took photos, but especially my doula after and during the birth, when my m/ws were helping me. Mum took video, it isn't all great thanks to lighting, etc, but I'm glad we got it.
I think the post-birth photos are the best.
Arimeh, hope you feel better soon. DD2 had a touch of gastro last week but no one else caught it.
Congrats sepata, I can't wait to hear more!!
Welcome special.
Arimeh: Rasberry jam is great for tummy bugs, so try that on toast instead. I had gastro with my first pg and it's horrible. Stay well hydrated if you can stomach Gatorade or similar.
Are you sure baby's head isn't hanging your cervix? I used to get weak at the knees when baby would headbutt my cervix late in pg. it would send electric shocks through me!! The Braxton hicks are promising. All that prelabour stuff is exhausting so try and rest when you can.
Arcadia - nah I'm pretty sure his head is still grinding into my hip, and its his shoulder in my bladder. Still have to work on positioning him properly
Feel better Arimeh!
This thread is going fast lately and can't keep up! Good thing I guess :)
Congrats Sepata!
Arimeh: hope you are feeling better and the rest of the kids don't get sick, gastro is the worst. My to had it not long ago and it was a terrible two weeks of it! Couldn't imagine having to go through that towards end of pregnancy, not nice!
Well things aren't going great here...MW tried to admit me to a mother baby unit on Friday but none would take me with DS as he is a few months too old, glad she understood parting me from him while still breastfeeding would be too hard for me. So she did in consultation with GP send me to local hospital where I spent a few hours in birth suite waiting for a psych review. Thankfully got to go home again. I'm still losing weight which she's not happy about as my eating disorder takes hold. Trying my best to get back on top of it but hard with limited support. My MW has been great though and seeing me weekly while I'm having this difficult time. She's concerned as I'm moving out of low risk into high risk pregnancy now and say that she will have to consult with an OB...and says if I don't start gaining weight she won't be able to let me birth at home. Which she knows I wouldn't want to happen so I guess that's an extra push to get on top of it. Just so frustrating as I've been reaching out for help but support services all have me on long waiting lists. Oh and fear that they are all pushing me to go on medication as that's the only way I'll be able to get ongoing help is if I accept their recommendations. I sooo don't want to go on antidepressants but don't know what else to do. My mind is so confused at the moment it's hard to know what's the right decision. Obviously my main concern is for my baby, which may seem ironic considering I'm restricting my food but my mind is a very traumatised confused place right now. So annoying that my PTSD has to constantly haunt me in life and while I do my best to suppress it (as only thing I've found that eventually works) I can't do it when I'm struggling and at times of weakness.
See MW again on Thursday and have dietitian appointment on Friday...yet still on waiting lists for mental health services. Ok now you girls will think I'm a complete nutcase. Soo frustrating when all I want to be is normal.
Eenee, I don't think you're a nutcase. Everyone has their struggles and I think you're remarkably self aware. I have another friend that is really frustrated trying to get her daughter mental health services, and it's shocking how hard it is to get help, especially when you're flat out asking for it.
I hope that between your MW and Dietician, you can work out the beginnings of a plan to get you on track.
Couldn't have said it any better than Special did.
I'll just give you a huge :hug: Eenee.
Hugs Eenee <3
:hug: Eenee, I hope you get access to some of the support services you need very quickly.
:hug: Eenee
Arimeh - how are you and your household? Stomachs settling down yet? Take it easy hon!
How is everyone else doing?
My kids went back to school today, and DH headed back to work. The first day of "back to normal" for me, and I think it will be just fine. Got to get some groceries, and run a few errands, but I'll try to do that this morning, and then catch a bit of a nap in the afternoon. Caleb is a very quiet baby, but he does like to eat a lot at night, so naps are becoming essential! Thankfully my two other small ones also nap in the afternoon, and my 4 year old DD who is home will be fine watching a movie or coloring beside me on the couch for a little while.
I was looking at thank you gifts for the midwives (I think I have to get 4 "thank yous" this time!) and there are some pretty interesting things on Etsy.... Would you like a hand embroidered picture of a vagina, for only $120? :o
...hic...
Lol! What will they come up with next!
Cricket, I need to let your togetherness rub off on me. My youngest is 4 and I am stressing out.
Welcome to the HB thread Special :welcome:
I agree with Eenee...this thread is moving super fast! YAY!
Eenee: it does totally suck when a mental illness rears its head and it just consumes everything (which they tend to do!). I totally totally feel for you having to rely on crapulent services of our health system. i once spent way too long in a waiting room at a hossy here in melbs and it was so demoralising and just not what i needed (i was 9 months PP...so they didnt want me at the Mother baby unit...).
I really feel for you xx I am so thankful that you have your midwife there. I so hope that you can manage to get on top of your eating so that you can stay at home. You dont want to enter the system if you can prevent it in anyway :hug: how is your DH now? is it sinking in for him that this might be here for a bit longer than a fleeting moment? much love eenee xx
Cricket: shopping?! already?! hats off woman! you rock! i reckon 8 days out and i hadnt left the couch...that said my IMs pretty much tied me to it :lol:
Welcome to the HB thread Special :welcome:
I agree with Eenee...this thread is moving super fast! YAY!
Eenee: it does totally suck when a mental illness rears its head and it just consumes everything (which they tend to do!). I totally totally feel for you having to rely on crapulent services of our health system. i once spent way too long in a waiting room at a hossy here in melbs and it was so demoralising and just not what i needed (i was 9 months PP...so they didnt want me at the Mother baby unit...).
I really feel for you xx I am so thankful that you have your midwife there. I so hope that you can manage to get on top of your eating so that you can stay at home. You dont want to enter the system if you can prevent it in anyway :hug: how is your DH now? is it sinking in for him that this might be here for a bit longer than a fleeting moment? much love eenee xx
Cricket: shopping?! already?! hats off woman! you rock! i reckon 8 days out and i hadnt left the couch...that said my IMs pretty much tied me to it :lol:
Thank you. :):
Thoughts on having a 4 year old around during the homebirth? She has high anxiety with anyone being in pain and usually starts crying and needs a LOT of convincing to calm down along with reassurance. My 19 month old is adorable but super busy so I don't think I would want her there as it would be stressful trying to make sure she doesn't get into everything.
My 4 year old is super high energy and not scared of anything. I thought he wouldn't be interested, but he has watched a few videos now (started with animal births) and is super attentive to all things baby and protective of my belly. He wants to be there and hold my hand and be the first one to kiss the baby. I don't assume that will all happen, and he will probably change his mind a few times along the way. But I'll just go with the flow for now and have back up available.
It's my 6 year old that I am not sure about. He is Mr Sensitive and worries a lot. I don't think he'll cope well with me in pain, but he has proven me wrong before. He is quietly determined when he wants to be.
My 13 year old has no interest. Lol. Understandable to me.
I think it can be easier when they are younger and don't have pre-conceived ideas. I find that younger kids tale what you say without questioning it.
My biggest deciding factor will be whether I want them there I think. I have no objection, but if I feel like being alone then that takes priority.
The mrs, it sounds like you have already answered your own question.
Afm, I had dd there for dd2's birth. But she wasn't in the room. She was just down the hall. She would have been fine tho, but maybe distracting in the final moments. I'm not sure. I had a friend act as a support for her, and she took her next door for a bath and played with her and answered her questions. I think you need someone devoted just to the kids when/if they are gonna attend a birth. To help them and also make sure that they arnt getting disruptive. Also to just remove them if the mamma needs that to be.
Yesterday we watched dd2's birth and dd was fine, but dd2 had tears in her eyes and would start to sob when she saw me in pain and or if I was crying with joy. She didn't understand at all. She is def more sensitive than her sister. It maybe that dd stays with me for the next birth and dd2 goes to stay with the neighbors for a little while. We have pretty good neighbors who are really kind to our kids. I am sure they would help out and allow us to keep the kids close but not so close that they are scared.
The_Mrs, both of mine (aged 7 and then 2) will be in the house (DD1 was at DD2's birth at age 5, so she's a pro!). If it's during the night I won't wake DD2. We will wake DD1 though. I am pretty sure it will happen when DD2 is asleep so I'm not bothered. If by some chance she's awake, then we'll play it by ear. There are enough people here to handle her and I'm not *that* noisy. I personally don't mind, because I know it will be over pretty quickly, so I won't bother lining up somewhere else for her to go. My sister will be here with her DD (18 mths by then) too, so I think she'll probably manage the toddlers in the lead-up, or as she needs to. We will watch DD2's birth and other birth videos beforehand as well and re-read the picture books on birth.
Eeenee - thinking of you. :hug:
Thanks girls...still waiting for help. See my MW tomorrow so at least that's something.
Good luck eenee. I hope your mw's consistent support helps you feel better. At the very least you know you can rely on her support. Xx
Thanks Bella, she's a big help/support.
Just on children at birth. We were a little concerned when DD was at DS's birth as she is a very sensitive kid, she used to cry when people blew their nose! Anyway she woke a few times during the night but DH was able to settle her again. Then when she woke closer to the birth we used her to BF to bring on contractions. Then with the noises I was making she would copy and then start laughing!!! Was quite cute. She was fine when he was born but cried when DH tried to stop her getting to close to DS so that was a mistake as she thought she wasn't allowed to be included.
HotI next time you update the list could you make me November please? I keep forgetting to ask, d'oh!
I've been catching up on this thread just now, congrats to cricket and sepata!
I'm 32 weeks tomorrow and organised with my midwife to come down in 2 weeks to check out the house for the homebirth etc which is super exciting because it's a milestone I've been looking forward to since about 12 weeks lol.
Hope everyone's well :).
Well we talked with DD1 (the sensitive one) and I explained its normal and that mommy might be a little in pain but that its a good pain. We asked her if she wanted to be there and she said yes she really does so I think we will give her a chance. My parents house is a couple houses down so if all else fails she can join her little sister. My family doesn't deal well with toddlers under stress and I don't want to deal with parenting while in labor so little sister will be definitely be going to nana and papas
My kids keep on asking me if the baby brudda will be coming out my vagina, to which I tell them yes. Then the girls always say "but it will hurt a LOT mum".
Definitely not too early to educate them on the difference between bad pain and productive pain ;)
Although my mum is worried I will traumatise them still...
HotI, hun, I need to be removed. I've been knocked back twice from the CMP due to two high risk pregnancies and now developing pre-eclampsia again this time :'(
Oh no! Can your midwife follow you to wherever you have to birth now? If not, do you have birth support people who can?:
Hope your bub can stay in a bit longer, and you don't feel too yuck.
Thanks sweet, i'm feeling quite ok about another hospital birth as DP (my support person) is fully aware of my desires and preferences. If I give birth in the car en route, then whoopsie poopsie. Im just really disappointed I suppose that I don't get a 'choice' as such anymore.
Oh well, its a good thing i'm a real birth warrior! :) Im still lurking though ;)
Sunny love, being a home birther is in your heart. You don't have to be at home to have a home birth. It can be totally about the spirit you bring to your birth space. So stay with us. I don't think you should go. :) and good luck getting a good birth experience in hospital.
Thanks Bella29, I feel the same way about it myself :) It's about me and my support, more than the environment per say.
i'm so glad to have such understanding from you HB ladies xxxxx