Bella said it perfectly. I wasn't going to take you off the list anyway. ;)
i am in such a slump at the moment. it sucks but i don't know how to get out of it.
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Bella said it perfectly. I wasn't going to take you off the list anyway. ;)
i am in such a slump at the moment. it sucks but i don't know how to get out of it.
Naw hottie, what's eating at you? Tired? Or something else?
As Dr Seuss said in 'Oh the places you'll go!'
" And when you're in a slump, you're not in for much fun. Un-slumping yourself is not easily done. You will come to a place where the streets are not marked. Some windows are lighted, but mostly they're darked. A place you could sprain both your elbow and chin! Do you dare to stay out, do you dare to go in? How much can you lose how much can you win And IF you go in, should you turn left or right...or right and three-quarters? Or maybe, not quite? Or go around back and sneak in from behind? Simple it's not, I'm afraid you will find, for a mind-maker-upper to make up his mind."
I have the strongest faith you will get there HotI, wherever 'there' is. xx
not even sure! probably tired, uncomfortable, not looking forward to months more of this. kids keep getting sick which doesn't help. dd weaned a couple months back, and i think ds has now. cue feeling guilty cos he would still be feeding (and maybe not as sick??) if i wasn't pg. i don't get much time to myself so i think i am just missing out my recharge time. i am not feeling this bub move yet, so it's like i can only see the bad stuff atm, and the good stuff is too far off, too remote. and then i wonder if something is wrong, and this will all be for nothing.
i'm all right, just not really happy or energised, and getting cranky at little things.
SL, we have a HB group get-together IRL with our midwives group (had one today actually). It includes all women (and the odd partner who's male) who are using their services. The majority are homebirthing, but there are plenty who've had to transfer, had twins (which means hospital birth under our m/w group, with IM support) and I think one breech (same thing). They're all welcome, regardless of where the birth took place. Bella is right, HBing is a philosophy, not a place.
So get your birth warrior on and rock this birth! I for one can't wait to hear how it goes.
Hot1, I'm guessing it doesn't help being mucked around with your u/s too. I was so stressed in the lead up to the u/s (mine was at 18 wks 6 days, but bub is measuring a bit behind), I think if I'd been put off I'd have turned into a nervous wreck. For my discernible reason... I hadn't even gotten my referral organised, but they were happy for me to get it later and fax it over to them. Otherwise, it's a tough point in the pg, nothing really to 'do' and still living with the whole realisation that there'll be a nb and juggling to be done not too far in the future. At least, that's how it has been for me. I feel a bit better now, I'm so close to the third tri and I feel like it'll pass quickly.
And you never know, DS might come back to bfing after bub is here. I am conflicted, I don't want DD2 to wean, because of the immunity thing and preschool as soon as the new bub is here, but oh dear, I truly dislike bfing while pg... I totally get why you'd feel guilty about it. :hug:
Now to get my sister to send. me. back. my. birth. books. Dammit!
i have been playing the 'face of birth' dvds and BOBB in the car (sound only while i'm driving) and i find inspiration in them. not really focussed enough for reading but video /audio is good.
Sorry, I've let this speedy thread get away from me...
eenee- You're not crazy in the slightest. This is happening to you because of the way the hormones disrupt your system. I hope you get the right help you need soon. I'm so glad you have such wonderful support from your MW and in the mean time please check in with us every day. Just keeping one foot in the front of the other is a huge achievement at the moment. Be proud of yourself for that. You will see the other side of this :hug:
Sunny love- You can't leave! You're a HB mama now. Once you're on that path you don't leave it. There's a reason I prefer HB with transfer birth stories over the unplanned HB stories... it's not about the location, it's about the mindset a HB mama has when she experiences birth. You will take that with you where ever you are. I hope you're doing okay. PE would not be fun at all and I'm glad you're getting the support and care you need.
hoti- I think your reasons for being over it at the moment are completely valid. Ride the wave, I know you'll lift up soon. I'm sorry you're going through this slump at the moment though.
HotI, I know that slumpy feeling. I think I have been more emotional this pregnancy, and 2 weeks ago that is how I was feeling. I think I've tuned the corner now. I'm feeling excited about the new baby. New baby boy!
Of course now everyone in the house except my energetic 4 year old is sick. :lol:
SunnyLove, I really like that Dr Suess excerpt. I'll be re-reading that one a few times. :)
HotI: :hug:
Update on things here https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...y-unit-193903/
Good luck eenee!!
Does anyone else's dh, get pregnancy symptoms with them? Mine does bless his heart. Can't remember what they call it!!!
Sympathetic pregnancy? Lol. Mine doesn't, but it's always funny hearing about those who do.
Couvade Syndrome ;)
Yes that's right, couvade syndrome. Last time he was mildly nauseous, this time he is wanting to go to bed at 9:30 along with me cos he feels exhausted. Bless his heart.:
Oh the nausea has kicked in now. Oh the joys! Just want to go curl up somewhere and ignore my children.
HotI - hope this slump is just a short-lived thing and soon you're feeling like yourself again!
Eenee - how are things going?
Arimeh - what's new at your house? Has the flu passed by now?
Bella - how are you and your pregnant hubby? ;) I hope the nausea isn't too severe for you! I think that was the toughest part of my pregnancy this time - I felt TERRIBLE in the first few weeks.
How's everyone else doing?
Caleb and I are still doing well - just a quick question from me for all of you:
Do you give your midwife a thank you gift? Got any good suggestions? Here's the scenario: I had four midwives involved in my care, so I'm not quite sure what to do. One (Christine) was assigned to be my primary care midwife at the beginning of my pregnancy, and did all my early prenatal appointments, but then was switched to be my second when the midwife (Debbie) who delivered DD5 returned from leave (she had broken a wrist, or something...?). Debbie does a job-share with another midwife named Lindsay, so they together were my primary care midwives. I saw them each a couple of times in the later half of my pregnancy. Then, as a back-up, clients are assigned a third midwife, whom they see once. (Joanne. She was also there at DD5's birth.) So I saw all of these ladies through my pregnancy, and then at the delivery, Debbie and Lindsay were both off, and Christine and Joanne attended. My post natal visits have all been with Debbie again.
The gift-giving budget is not THAT big, so I can't get anything too huge here. Do you think I should get a little something for each of them (gift certificate to book store...? Bath and Body shop? other...?) or something for the practice? (books or DVDs for the lending library? Feel free to suggest titles - I can check what's on the shelf when I see them this week. I was thinking about a copy of Hello Baby, but I could probably get a couple others as well.)
Any suggestions would be appreciated!
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i bought a midwifery book for my student, and a shoulder bag that had a birth type image and saying on the side for my midwife.
I know Rhea Dhempsey has a new book, and they probably won't have that on their shelves. I haven't read it yet, but i do like her readings and talking.
Hi all!
I'm jumping back into this thread, we are expecting baby number 3 in March. Our second birth was a homebirth. So getting ready to do it all again!! Looking forward to getting to know everyone.
Cricket- i got my midwives (3 of them) a personlised pen with their name and thanking them for their love and dedication. plus some chocolate
congrat Ladybug!
Hello lovelies!
Lady-bug: wahoo! congratulations!
Cricket: check out etsy...i got my midwives some lovely screenprinted canvas totes with the motto: keep calm and call the midwife. they were really affordable (i think AUD10). and i put in some nice soap and chocolate and a thank you card with a picture of DD3 on it.
Bella: i had no idea there was a name for when your DH goes all pg on you hahahaha. mine had it a bit as well in the beginning! i feel for you with the nausea :( i had it really bad for my last pg. i used seabands and switched to a plant based prenatal vitamin and upped my protein particularly in the morning and just before bed (cheese and crackers and eggs and mushrooms were my best friend lol).
Cricket - yup everyone is better now, thanks for asking :) Not much happening here! lol
Lady Bug - congrats! :D
AFM - Um, yeah not much happening. Just doing what I normally do, you know, life and stuff............ I'm sure the baby will come when he's ready to come and I'm happy to wait :)
Congrats Ladybug and welcome. There are a few of us in here atm on number three baby and second HB.
Cricket, I got my midwives a Keep Calm and Call the Midwife mug. They loved them! From memory, postage and all was under $30 for two. I got them on eBay and they came out from the UK.
Has anyone had constant bladder bouncing babies? This one is the worst, for the last few days he has just been constantly bouncing on it and it sends a searing pain down in that area - I hate it. Its like he bounces himself off to sleep that way but I'm getting so sick of it and want to know how to stop him!
:baby: Babies Arrived :homebirth:
- 2012 -
Jennifer13- Baby GIRL born at home 4th January 2012
Bella29- Baby GIRL born at home 10th January
HotI - Baby BOY born at home 21st January
*Ash*- Baby BOY born at home 14th February
loulabelle - Baby BOY born at home 24th February
Cricket - Baby GIRL born at home 15th May
chocorama - May
...Em - Baby BOY born at home 7th June
BellyBelly - Baby GIRL born 11th August
Tanya - Baby BOY born at home 16th August
phynna - Baby GIRL born at home 8th September
lady_neon - Baby BOY born 27th September
Ambersky - Baby BOY born at home 3rd October
Cassius - Baby GIRL born at home 4th November
Ice cream - September
mirriumu - November
Pumpkinzulu - Baby GIRL born at home 12th December
- 2013 -
Sara - Baby BOY born 18th January 2013
turtlejane - Baby GIRL born at home 31st January 2013
Bellany - Baby BOYS born 14th March 2013
Ree*Ree - Baby BOY born 18th March 2013
Aimz - Baby BOY born at home 21st March 2013
Beatrix - Baby GIRL born at home 7th April 2013
Rubyshoes - Baby BOY born at home April 2013
Dollyroux - Baby BOY and GIRL born 29th April 2013
HomeStyleMumma - Baby GIRL born 8th May 2013
ladybirdflies - Baby GIRL born at home 23rd May 2013
Cricket - Baby BOY born at home 26th August 2013
Sepata - Baby BOY born at home 31st August 2013
:bellygrowing: Babies On Their Way :bellyrubs:
WilliamsMummy - September
Arimeh - September
Loulabelle - September
Dot Face - November
Eenee - November
Sunnylove - November
TeniBear - December
*The_Mrs* - December
Jennifer13 - January
Special - January
HotI - February
Arcadia - February
Glorious - March
Bella29 - March
LadyBug - March
Aaaahhhhhh look how far up the list I am now :o Six before me, seven after :o Starting to feel a little more real now, seeing that!
12 hours and counting until my appointment, fingers crossed it's actually with one of my midwives this time! The last two have been with back-ups... I'm flexible, but I really do prefer the people I've chosen to care for me ;)
Hey hoti, I think I slipped off :)
And tenibear, btw, you name auto corrects to "the obese" on my phone, lol, so if you ever see that I swear I didn't mean it!!! I would really not enjoy not having my Mw at appointments. Just would wind me up a little. But I guess it would depend on how far along I was. And why she couldn't come.
Nausea is def kicking my arse! Oh well, reassures me somehow, but I think I will go and get an early scan, cos worrying wont be any better for this baby than an u/s putting my mind at ease.
Welcome Lady-bug!
Arimeh - is that a head bouncing? Hiccups by the bladder maybe? Hiccups are much more enjoyable when baby's on the outside! :)
Thanks for all the gift suggestions. I was looking at the mugs, and thinking they would be a nice idea. There are also some pretty mama/baby pendants (some with miniatures of art prints) on etsy that I thought were good, but jewelry is such a personal thing - everyone's taste is different! I wondered otherwise about a gift basket for everyone to share at the office - there are five midwives in the practice, and I saw four of them, and the fifth is one I've had before.... I'd better commit to something soon though or I'm going to end up with nothing like last time! (I had a good excuse that time though - I was going to go get a gift certificate before my appointment, but I ended up locking DD in the car at my sisters house, in the heat of summer. :o Thankfully my BIL was able to get a window open and we got her out in a short time.)
And here's my embarrassing story for the week:
Yesterday I was busy with laundry and housecleaning as usual. Just finished my postnatal exercise DVD, and was looking a little disheveled, in yoga pants and sweatshirt, hair in a pony tail that hasn't been brushed.... You get the idea. Grabbed a load of laundry from the washer to take out to the line, and threw the next load in. Whites.
Hey, my bra really needs to be washed.
But you NEVER go without your bra. Not even to bed.
But I'm starting the load now - I'll just whip it off and throw it in.
But you're going outside.
So what? No one ever comes over. I'll be outside in our own private back yard for 5 min. I have a loose sweatshirt on. It will be fine.
So the bra goes in the washer and the load gets started. Head out the back door in my pants and sweatshirt. Milk lets down. Oh crap. Oh well - it's just five minutes, no one is around anyways, and as soon as I'm done, I'm getting in the shower. Hanging laundry fast as I can....
And a car pulls up. What?! Why would a car be parking by my house? Must be for the neighbours. Hang laundry faster....
An older gentleman gets out... Uh oh. And comes over.... (no! why?!) and asks about the minor variance on the building permit that DH is applying for... and makes pleasant conversation for a while... (drip, drip, drip....) and then finally heads back to his car and I can escape.
Honestly - no one EVER comes to my house. Except the Jehovah's Witnesses. I like it that way. But I guess if I want more visitors, I just have to take my bra off more often....
ETA: Also, the minor variance was approved, and DH got a good laugh out of the story. He was asking me who came to the house, (Did he say his name was Bob? Or Bill? What did he look like?) and I was like I HAVE NO IDEA! I was a little distracted and not paying a whole lot of attention to what name the guy gave or what he looked like. I was just trying to stand all casual and slightly hunched over, hanging laundry like everything was cool.... :)
Oh cricket!! Pmsl!!!! Classic!!!
:rofl: You'll never guess what text message I just woke up to - my midwives have been called out to another birth again! I've just sent back "I must be a birthing good luck charm for other women" :lol: I'm not upset, I'm actually really amused by it. Well, okay, last time I was a little upset, but only because they were apparently with a very sick baby and that was very sad. This time it's just funny!
can you change your appt to when you can see your midwife? that would annoy me if it kept happening. how many women does each midwife care for?
sorry, Bella. fixed now.
They've said they'll make it up to me by having an at-home visit in a few days, so that's alright :) Of course I'm a bit annoyed, but it's luck of the draw with IMs - if I were the woman in labour I'd much prefer the midwife prioritised me over a "just checking in" appointment. And at least now I don't have to get up and dressed just yet, I was starting to regret making an early-morning appointment. Though now I'm going to have to clean up my manky house a bit for when they come here :lol:
I've had to change my appt because my m/w was at a birth, but only once. I generally understand, one day that's probably going to be me (although I have the consideration to give birth when they really don't have many other clients!).
I've never seen another m/w instead of mine though. We just work around each other.
Yeah, i had to change a few appts when things came up for my midwife, completely understand that happens. I just would be upset at seeing another midwife 3 appts in a row.
Has anyone else noticed a shift from midwives doing majority (or all) home visits to more midwives having an office and only doing home visits towards the end of pregnancy? My midwife doesn't, but i am hearing about it more and more.
I could use some helpful tips/info on giving birth vaginally with a breech baby. We still have time but I am getting everything prepared in case this baby is breech like her sister. Washington is a no-go when it come to vaginal breech births but Oregon is okay with it. I found a lovely midwife center that said if this baby was breech they think (if everything was great) they would feel comfortable delivering my baby at my aunts house in Portland (has to be in IN Oregon). My aunt is all for this but the rest of my family is not supportive. They think I am being crazy and don't understand why I would go through this hassle (its 1 1/2 hours away) instead of just having a RCS. My mom thinks giving birth to a breech baby vaginally is a death sentence and even asked me if I would go to jail if the baby died This is my last baby and I just want to fight for the birth I want! This midwives in Portland are WELL known and have done TONS of breech deliveries. I am starting to doubt myself now that death has been brought into it. Im still holding out that this baby is head down so we can have our home birth
The first time it happened, I think it was that they'd only just been called away - I can't remember. Second time, they called me and gave me the option to either reschedule or see the other midwife. I took the second option because I wanted to see someone. This time I'm not seeing anyone else, as I said they're making it up to me with a home visit :):
I really do think it's just bad luck. As far as I can tell they're not overbooking, I just happen to make appointments on days they're going to be at births. I shouldn't have said anything, it's like I'm complaining but I just thought it was amusing.
Well, you can look at Spinning Babies for tips on helping your baby get/stay head down, and you can see a chiropractor to help your baby move as well. The only thing I found about Spinning Babies was that I started to get a little TOO stressed about having my baby in the optimal position, and imagining all sorts of horrors if he wasn't. This baby was delivered ROA (instead of the "optimal" LOA) and it went perfectly. Then, I'd suggest you talk to your midwives about it. Maybe ask for an extra-long appointment so you can have a thorough discussion, and bring a good list of questions.:
Finally, DON'T LISTEN TO YOUR FAMILY! They haven't done the reading and the research. They've watched ER one too many times, where everything is dramatic and life or death. Learn as much as you can, and make sure you have caregivers you trust taking care of you and baby. Then you know that you will be able to make good decisions together when the time comes.
Yep HotI this describes my MW, I think though its due to the increasing popularity of having a private midwife. I did hear her mention once that some people prefer to be seen in there office as it seems more professional-and that's generally for the women that still want to birth in hospital. I did much prefer home visits myself as it makes it feel more special, that and I didn't have to pack the kids up. It also allows her to see more women as she doesn't have to factor in the travel time.:
My midwives came to me 9/10 times.
I had one app at her office because it was a busy time and easier for her and one app at the hospital so hubby could have a mini tour just in case we ended up transferring.
Was so much easier for them to come to me from my point of view and I don't think they minded. They both had brand new government cars too so car, petrol and mait of that wasn't their issue either so prob helped
I wrote up DS2's birth story - you can find it here :)
My midwife makes a new appt if she's at a labour, I've had all my appts with her. But yes she doesn't tend to do home visits at all. But she is doing them for me now, seeing as I was having pain sitting in car too long with bad pelvis and bh.:
Don't know if you've read this blog, but I found it really interesting regarding breech births.:
http://www.homebirth.net.au/2011/03/...mber_259440400
I only had one MW appointment at her home, rather than mine. I agreed to it as she was on a license suspension due to speeding too often :lol: I have noticed that here in the states the trend is absolutely to do office visits. All the post-natal visits are office visits too. Ugh. Travelling with your newborn post birth?? That's the perk of homebirth for me! I've found a few MWs advertise that they do "european style care" which translates to appointments in your home rather than office visits.
My MW was frequently late (up to 2 hours late) but always with a phone call and me saying it was fine. It was just because her day would vary so much depending upon another family's needs but she never missed an appointment. Unfortunately for me, my son's birth was one of about 4 in 3 days or something crazy as I went a week over and a few mum's went early and my MW dropped off the radar. It really sucked balls and I was disappointed with my post-natal care as that's the most critical time for support for me.
The_Mrs- I think traveling that far for great breech support could be really worth it. So awesome to have women which a high level of experience available to you- it's becoming very rare! I wouldn't think about the fact that it's a VBAC breech. The VBAC bit is pretty irrelevant. And I agree- don't worry what the uneducated 'scare of birth' people have to say.