Homebirth General Discussion #16

[HotI]

had a nasty dream with medico type people telling me I had to go back to the hospital where Dd was born. was feeling my energy drain, then realised it wasn't their decision to make, and their argument was flawed. felt stronger when I realised this, but hated the earlier weakness. why is it so easy to slip into patient mode, even when you don't want to?

[meow]

why is it so easy to slip into patient mode, even when you don't want to?

Maybe it's not so much weakness but deliberation? You're a reasonable person and for reasonable reasons you would go back there. The 'weakness' is perhaps while we pause for thought. But it's just a moment of reflection and deliberation while you consider someone else's point of view.

So excited about your doula The_Mrs. Sounds perfect!

[Arcadia]

So good to hear from you Cricket ! I still can't believe he's here!

Arimeh: it's good to have positive dreams like that. Your body knows exactly what to do. Even your subconscious is reassuring you. You can do it!

The mrs. Good news about the doula! Your bub is due on my birthday! Awesome due date!

Bella: I hope your friend gets the care and support she is looking for. My midwife would do twins at a hospital. I think going to a midwife group and getting them to use the ob they trust would ge a good start. Down here we have an Ob they nickname vaginal Lionel because he is very pro vaginal deliveries.

HotI I really like meows interpretation of your dream. Pausing and consideration is not weakness, it's rationality. Raging and refusing based on fear is irrational.

I understand that 'patient' mentality you speak of though. I feel incredibly vulnerable when pg (also very strong) but I think this plays into the whole patient mentality when really we just need some extra special nurturing and care.

[Mum2twoBoys]

Had some prelabour pains last night. But they stopped as soon as I had to get up to ds at 1am. A bit sick of mixed signals. But have to keep thinking, it's not pointless, my body is preparing for labour. And I'm one step closer to d-day.

[Arimeh]

All in good time WM! Hang in there lovely - we're all here for you.

I don't think I would be able to have one of those labours Cricket, this baby is so high still, if you were on facebook I could prove it with my 38 week photo I just put up LOL I might believe it was possible if he was locked and loaded and ready to fire, but uh, no. I will look into that blog though, thanks.

My DH tried a trick last night to help baby get out of oblique position (recommended by text by my old chiro from Tassie who is a good friend of mine now) - I was laying on the couch on my back, with a pillow under my knees and he had one hand under my sacrum (I think thats what its called - the bony part above your butt) and one hand on my lower abdomen, its supposed to help baby get in a good position. He definitely changed position during it, cos my belly went all squishy instead of firm like it always is.

Another chiro appointment today with my new chiro and I'll tell her about it too and see what she reckons. Have my midwife appointment today too so its a busy day!

[*The_Mrs.*]

Hot1 - I get those more than I care too it really is easy to slip back into that feeling of I need to listen to these people because they know all...but not really.

[*The_Mrs.*]

Thanks Jennifer! She was just so sweet and friendly! I met her at my le leche meeting. A plus is that's she has had a Vbac so that's helpful

[Bella29]

Hey hot1, can you add me on for may please ?

And welcome special! Congrats on your pregnancy . How/where were your first two bubbas born? My sister had four. Two in hosp, two at home. she is busy, but I think four is a great number!

[HotI]

Hey hot1, can you add me on for may please ?

Yay! I have been waiting for this! Hope you feeling ok.

[Bella29]

Yeah I am feeling ok . Thanks love. But I am just a little worried that I don't feel at all sick. I usually don't get sick properly till 5 weeks. But I haven't even had any little waves of it yet. So it is making me nervous, cos it was the same with the pregnancy I lost at 5.5. Hoping it is just my lucky pregnancy to miss out on ms, perhaps because I am carrying a little boy?? But yeah who knows. I might get and early dating scan if my mind doesn't get rest about it soon.

[Arimeh]

Welcome special!!! This will be my first homebirth, but 5th baby.

Congrats Bella - I never got any morning sickness for mine so it doesn't always mean something terrible is going on.

Had my midwife appointment yesterday - she said she is really looking forward to my birth and thinks it will go really well. That was a big confidence boost! Plus my chiro said that my pelvis is in perfect alignment now, so just have to work on getting him in a good birthing position.

Dh's birthday today so I have to take the kids down to the shops to get something. I may not survive....

ETA - I forgot! I picked up a tincture yesterday from the chiro place (they have all sorts of people working in the centre, midwives, acupuncture, chiro, reflexology etc etc) and its called a 38 week formula. Contains Raspberry leaf, squaw vine, nettle and vervan. I had to google everything but RL and I'm pretty impressed with what they say they will do, especially the squaw vine! Tastes like death though, so I HATE taking it. Makes me want to vomit. My belly goes all warm afterwards though and I feel quite calm - apparently thats the vervan doing that. So I'll keep taking it but might put some in orange juice. Urgh.

[Beatrix]

Arimeh- Zoe was very high until about a week before I gave birth. My midwife said consecutive babies don't engage until much later and also gave me the talk about bum in air if waters broke.

And that birth is very possible!! I only had about 5 proper contractions before Zoe was out

[Mum2twoBoys]

Welcome special, look forward to hearing about your homebirth story. I'm in vic with #2 due in September and 1st hb.

[Jennifer13]

Welcome, special! Looking forward to hearing all about your 2nd HB plans. This will be my 2nd HB too. Glad to have some company in January! Are you expecting bub to arrive early or late Jan?

[Special]

Welcome, special! Looking forward to hearing all about your 2nd HB plans. This will be my 2nd HB too. Glad to have some company in January! Are you expecting bub to arrive early or late Jan?

Oh, edd is the 29th Jan.
I'm expecting February. The others came 2, 13 and 10 days after their edd.

[TeniBear]

Welcome Special

There was more I was going to put here, but it's all flown out of my head. I'm not even tired, just have brain fog at the moment *sigh*

[Bella29]

Looks like my mw for dd2's birth is going to be away for the week leading up to my due date. Not sure what that means for me. . I know the thought of going with someone else makes me anxious tho. Anyone else had to deal with that??

[Special]

Yep. My midwife goes away 2 days before my edd for a week.

It is annoying and means I need I find an alternative for that week. But she told me up front and the option of just not having her at all seemed worse to me, so I'm taking the chance and assuming I go over. Or early. Lol

For me, it's the pregnancy care that matters most to me, since that's when I tend to stress.