Jen a nice thing is to get some wool and as each woman gets the ball she wraps it around her wrist a couple of times, then as she passed it on to the next woman, she speaks to you and tells you what she hopes for you from the birth. I have seen some women also give the women am each a bead to put on the wool. At the end everyone is attached in a circle by their wrists, then you cut the wool and each woman keeps her bit and wan ears it until you birth your baby, and if it is important, until you establish bfing.