Oh wow! i have missed so much with our move out of melbourne and losing internet for way too long!
Eenee: YOU HAD A BABY!!!!!! Congratulations!! Sounds like it all went awesome....you HAND PUMPED your pool??!! dude, you must have the best and strongest guns in town after that hahahaha!
it sucks butt that DH is dropping the ball. that is not fair. especially given the not so easy pg journey you've had. does he always tend to go a bit distant after a baby is born? i know that my DH suddenly feels the need to fix everything that is wrong with our house which drives me bonkers as it makes him totally unavailable to help me out with the new baby...but it passes. it's like he needs processing time. but that also means that i need mothering time too: which is something i have never had. might consider a post natal doula or something if there is a next time.
SJ: argh! so uncool that the support network is just not there for you it is such a sad reflection on our society that what should be a time of togetherness and specialness (growing and birthing babies) is, instead, a journey fraught with judgement, fear and isolation. I mean, there are supportive places and people out there, but in general, the environment in which we bring our children into the world kinda sucks. i felt that isolation this time around more acutely as i too have found the lack of belly buddy group activity a bit sad. and despite living in what is almost the HB capital of victoria (just behind the country town i have just moved too lol) at the time, i knew no other HBers in the area and would of loved loved loved to have had other women and families to connect to on that level. also, being my third, there was just less celebration of the pregnancy and upcoming baby in general which i found confronting. there was no blessingway or connection/anticipation by my community: it's almost as though they felt that because it was my third that i didnt want/need it to be still special?? maybe?
Teni: you are awesome. so happy that you were able to get along to the booking in appt. I thankfully have never had to do one as my IM has an arrangement with the womens for that paperwork stuff. it wouldnt really suit my PTSD to have to go in, but i guess if i did have to i would cross that bridge....maybe...could i keep calling in sick at the last minute??
Jen: so close! sounds like you might end up with a bedtime birth then if you would prefer DD2 to not have to be there!
Sterla: welcome! so exciting! planning a HB is so much fun!
Bella: i found my third pg the most challenging. so much less time for recuperation. my MS lasted a lot longer and was much more evident. i lived in seabands for 22 weeks lol.
The Mrs: i can highly recommend the blog 'birth without fear' as they have fabulous stories and support for HBACs the big fear of uterine rupture must be scary. i guess it may be worth keeping in mind that there is a bigger risk of it happening in a primagravida woman who is induced...and they do that allll the time in hospital without emphasising the rupture risk IYKWIM. have you spoken to your midwife about your fears yet? it can be very cathartic to do so (and apologies if you are freebirthing...i have been out of the thread loop for too long!)
AFM: well, have just moved to a new town where the HB rate is 22 times the national average DH is keen to give the HB services a go...me, less so haha. I was so rocked by DD3s first year of seizures etc that i am yet to feel strong enough to have another...despite the awesomeness of having a gaggle of little people underfoot.
Last edited by Cassius2; December 3rd, 2013 at 12:25 PM.
Re: Homebirth General Discussion #18
it is such a sad reflection on our society that what should be a time of togetherness and specialness (growing and birthing babies) is, instead, a journey fraught with judgement, fear and isolation. I mean, there are supportive places and people out there, but in general, the environment in which we bring our children into the world kinda sucks. i felt that isolation this time around more acutely as i too have found the lack of belly buddy group activity a bit sad. and despite living in what is almost the HB capital of victoria (just behind the country town i have just moved too lol) at the time, i knew no other HBers in the area and would of loved loved loved to have had other women and families to connect to on that level. also, being my third, there was just less celebration of the pregnancy and upcoming baby in general which i found confronting. there was no blessingway or connection/anticipation by my community: it's almost as though they felt that because it was my third that i didnt want/need it to be still special?? maybe?
DH is keen to give the HB services a go...me, less so haha. I was so rocked by DD3s first year of seizures etc that i am yet to feel strong enough to have another...despite the awesomeness of having a gaggle of little people underfoot.
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