Homebirth General Discussion #18

[meow]

I'm sorry this pregnancy is so hard hoti. Glad to hear baby is moving xx I hope you have closer to 5 weeks than 10 weeks to go!

What do you all think about MWs who haven't given birth? Turns out my preferred MW isn't a mother herself. She is one of nine sisters and comes from a 'positive birth' family and says it was her positive view of birth combined with being a birth assistant at a friend's hospital birth that drove her to become a HB MW. She seems really knowledgable and in line with my thinking but I've always had a hesitation about MWs who haven't birthed themselves. I'd like to think about it some more before I meet to her to work out my 'issues'.

[TeniBear]

My primary, Kelly, isn't a mother yet. And she was absolutely fantastic.

Sorry, can't be much more elaborate than that. I've been typing my birth story and I think all my words have gone

[Smoke Jaguar]

Meow, my first birth was attended by a mw who hadn't birthed before and she was so completely awesome and hands off (FBC birth), we were mutually grateful - her for me doing the birthing by myself (with hypnobirthing) and me for her letting me be and just reading the body language to know when to back off and just watch
HotI, so glad you're feeling movements again! It's the little things when the pregnancy is being a trial...hope it goes quickly for you from here on in.
My pelvis packed it in again yesterday It had stabilised for just over 2 weeks and I hadn't really used the crutches much at all. Then, yesterday, when I would have liked to cook brekky and lunch for my sister and her family I was either hobbling around or sitting down. I got excited, thinking that as my pelvis hadn't stabilised in the other pregnancies that I would have an easier time of it after the fortnight I'd had. Actually, the last fortnight seems to have flown by because I could do some things again. Now I'm back to feeling like this is dragging on. All the more reason to look forward to having a nice homebirth - anything to salvage my pregnancy experiences! Sadly, too, the social worker couldn't get the Shire to see that I need home help, after a last ditch effort. My DP's day yesterday consisted of doing the morning milking where he works, coming home to see my sister and BiL before they left, then heading back to move hay for his boss. Home for a short bit (time for a coffee) before heading back to OUR farm to meet the butcher and bring back the cool room with a fresh beastie in it, then returning his boss' tractor and back to our farm to dispose of innards. Home again to shower, scoff down a sausage in bread and then all of us headed off to a local carols service. Even without the seasonal events thrown in there, he's shuttling between farms every day...but because he comes home to sleep at night we're not eligible for home help!
Anyhow, looking forward to a quiet Christmas Eve and wishing I could stay home tomorrow. 3 months of whining to go!

[HotI]

I'm sorry this pregnancy is so hard hoti. Glad to hear baby is moving xx I hope you have closer to 5 weeks than 10 weeks to go!

What do you all think about MWs who haven't given birth? Turns out my preferred MW isn't a mother herself. She is one of nine sisters and comes from a 'positive birth' family and says it was her positive view of birth combined with being a birth assistant at a friend's hospital birth that drove her to become a HB MW. She seems really knowledgable and in line with my thinking but I've always had a hesitation about MWs who haven't birthed themselves. I'd like to think about it some more before I meet to her to work out my 'issues'.

I have been pondering this question. I have been birth support for two of my sils. one pre babies, and one post babies. my perspective has certainly changed, but I wonder how much is exposure to birth vs experience of birthing. to truly understand my trauma, or bliss of MY births I do think you have to have experienced it, I wouldn't appreciate it fully just from observing or hearing about it. but I also think a woman's philosophy and life experiences also play a huge part in how they would support another. so, if these aligned with mine then her lack of personal birth experience may not play as much in my decision. good luck, its a tricky one.

it took me a little while to decide on birth support this time. I ended up going with same support I had with DS, but it wasn't as automatic as I thought the decision would be.

[HotI]

I found someone local (2 mins away) who does henna, and I am thinking about having a party for one and getting my belly henna ed. is the idea that it will still be there when baby arrives, or more just something nice to get done sometime later in pregnancy?

had a lovely day today with family, and now soaking in the spa bath before heading to bed.

love to all