Thinking of you both, Hot1 and Special. These last few weeks trying to get everything organised are busy.
One week in with three and doing okay. Bit daunted about the return to school/work and trying to ignore the reality for another few days at least. DD2 starts preschool next week, so that will ease us back into normality.
Had a lovely long chat with my m/w yesterday to debrief the birth. I think the greatest impact was on DP though. The photos of him with DD3 an hour after the event and his face is still completely set in shock. He was completely unprepared, whereas I at least had read enough to feel like I knew what to do. Mind you, he now gets to quite proudly tell everyone about his vital role in her birth and that gets him quite a bit of kudos.
I have come to the conclusion that (each) birth is a journey all of its own and thinking it would go a particular way was just unrealistic on my part. I consider myself so incredibly lucky to have my two homebirths and have everything go so smoothly that any disappointment/shock has been dissipated.
And I did spend my whole pg saying that I didn't want to push for 50 mins again. Kinda expected more than three pushes (and that was me slowing it down!), but I certainly can't complain.
One healthy, happy baby at my scan yesterday. Bub was asleep for the first part of the scan, then woke up and had the hiccups and was playing with the cord . I was measuring exactly to dates, so I'm 11+4 today. Only a bit over month till I have my first appointment with my midwife (I'm using the same midwife I had with DD). I can't wait to see her again and start discussing the birth!
Jen, it sounds like you've reached a good place wrt the speed of delivery. I must admit your experience has made me let go of my expectations about this next birth, although I still have t made arrangements for the children if it's a day labour...I just cannot see myself birthing in the middle of the day!!
I am starting to gather birthing stuff and finalizing baby's things. I am conscious of getting dd all ready for school too since I am due the week she starts prep.
Feeling that emotional fragility associated with late preg for me. I'm retreating into the cave...
I am being reminded to also let go of some expectations and/or fears.
Lovely chat with my midwife and today, after a good cry to Hubby. I feel much more on top of things.
My 3rd baby was my first homebirth and it went very quickly for the last bit. Overnight contractions, that never really got regular or closer than 10 minutes.
Then somewhere after a text I sent at 7:45am it was all go! Contractions picked up, waters broke, I jumped in the shower and a baby was out a minute later. I never even got the water on me. I have a pic of me at 8:35am about to get in the shower. His guestimated time of birth is 8:37 - and that is just based of my Sister being on the phone to the midwives and them checking.
They got there 5 minutes later and all was fine, but it was definitely emotional.
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. I was measuring exactly to dates, so I'm 11+4 today. Only a bit over month till I have my first appointment with my midwife (I'm using the same midwife I had with DD). I can't wait to see her again and start discussing the birth!
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