Meow - how exciting to finally start out with your midwife!
I've suggested DH studies up on emergency childbirth just in case things go too quickly - he's cool with that. Is it a good idea do you think? I very much doubt it'll be too quick, but figure we might as well cover that angle just in case. Is there a good book or something?
My fear is that my body won't go into spontaneous labour. It's not really rational I know, but it's there. I spose the silliest thing is that the fear is only likely to hinder the start of labour...
Oh- birth plan meeting reminds me of when I took my birth plan to one of my midwife appoints at the FBC last time. I got the stupid young midwife I had a few times (who made me scared of birthing there- more of a medwife than a midwife). She took the time to read it and discuss each point which was good but basically either said "Of course we'll do that" or "Nope, that wont happen" and made the whole thing look like a waste of time. Once I was in labour though the midwife I had was awesome and she obviously read it before I arrived and she followed it to a tee- set up the room with dim lights, used the doppler as little as possible, automatically declined the hep-b vax for us etc.
I also meant to talk about my H being at the birth. My H was central to the whole thing last time- we spent most the labour at home, just the two of us and once we arrived at the birth he was always within 30cm of me (most the time I was leaning on him). At the birth centre I only had him, my doula and the midwife (who came in and out anyway) so it was beautiful and calm. I'm actually feeling like this birth might not be as good as we'll need people here for my son and even then my H might get distracted with them/him at times. And the midwives may end up here earlier in labour I guess. We'll see- but I would like it be all about my H and I again if we can manage it.
I got yep, yep, no problem for our birth plan. But then was induced so most of it went out the window anyway. And I was asked by several midwives whether I was sure I ddin't want an epidural (against my wishes). That was kinda good though, as I was starting to think about it and they ****ed me off so much it renewed my resolve not to have one.
As I understand it, HB midwives don't tend to come till things are well established anyway (unless you feel you need them) so you could still labour mostly alone, right? Maybe whoever is going to care for your son could take him out and just bring him back toward the end...?
I would have been SO mad if I was offered drugs! I had that in my birth plan- I didn't want them mentioned or even the gas to be visible (fear of medicalisation) and no-one did which was good.
I forgot to reply about emergency childbirth- I guess it can't hurt. For any birth though. We stayed home till I felt like pushing/bearing down last time and I could have had a born-before-arrival baby then but we never prepared for that. I guess my H would call the ambos and they would tell him over the phone what to do?
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