i would find that wierd. you are not a student, or naive to having children or midwives/homebirth. is it an ass covering exercise (for her to have it in writing what she has told you)? Has she been working as an independent midiwfe long?
i wouldn't necessarily find it that strange in conversation, but to write it all out i do find it wierd.
Have you been able to talk to any women she has birthed with? There were things that i found puzzling about my midwife in pre and post natal appts, but at the birth she was perfect and so 2nd time around i went with her again bc it was at the birth that i wanted someone i could trust and felt safe with.
She hasn't been an IM for a long time, only a few years. And I think she's really finding her feet in the current climate as she just moved here a year ago. In her previous state HBs were illegal and she attended freebirths covertly. She's enjoying being open and public here but she's also bogged down by legislation that in some cases can see her facing criminal charges (not just deregulation) if she doesn't play by the rules. Some of these laws just came in in January so are untested and perhaps even the very experienced MWs would be equally antsy at the moment.
I don't know anyone I can ask but I have read online reviews and I know she has a good reputation. On a personal level we get along well and I like her energy. I picture a very positive birth and in many ways I know she's trying to get me the birth I want- especially in putting in the effort to have home appointments (rare for MWs around here) and develop a relationship with my son who has autism so that he can be comfortable around her and be at the birth if he chooses.
I was also thinking that this was one of those cases where the conversation went too far by text. Perhaps it would have been fine IRL and I should just calm down and get over it.
Re: Homebirth General Discussion #20
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