Homebirth General Discussion #21

[meow]

Well, I've just chosen the first MW. I don't think I'll still feel settled over all this until I start having real appointments with her. Ugh. Hate how much one mess up can do your head in and it has me second guessing everything!

[Sterla]

That's great you've made a decision! I hope she turns out to be the perfect fit for you xx

[Tegam]

I think that sounds like a great choice meow! Clever you for making it so fast

[Jennifer13]

Great that you've made a decision, meow. Sounds like the right fit for you atm.

[kellbell]

Sounds like a great choice :-)

[Bella29]

That's awesome meow. To be honest, it sounded like she was the better fit for you, just from how you described her. I hope that she turns out to be everything you need.

[meow]

Thanks xx I feel excited to see her and get going and I think I would have felt a bit anxious still with the second one so I'm sure it's the right choice. I've always sort of got straight to it and told her heaps while chatting so far so I think she's going to be a good fit.

[Cassius2]

Sorry i didnt reply earlier...i reckon you have made the right choice. but this is my personal perspective only that it really is a requirment that the MW i work with has a good understanding and knowledge of the hospital system as if i were to transfer or need their services i dont want to be the one exploring it all and organising it all ITMS. i want my MW for that to protect me from them at my most vulnerable moment. when i did have to go in twice this last pg it was super awesome because Nic did all the calling for me

Sterla: 36 hours is a champion effort! I am in the position where for DD3 I quietly wished for slower birth after DD2. DD2s birth was perfect and gorgeous but it went too fast and i wanted to hang on to some of that fun...i kinda got my wish 3rd time around with an extra 15 minutes

[meow]

Yep, I totally agree with you Cassius. We have had healthy pregnancies and labours thus far so I don't envision needing to transfer but if I did that's when I REALLY need the MW. So I wanted the one I had most confidence in in the most serious cases IYKWIM. Even the littler things like needing a good LC or something- this one has been around the area so long she knows them all and knows the best and I trust she can make me excellent referrals. And she's still very crunchy with her homeopathics and all that stuff. I certainly don't need someone to Kum ba yah next to the birth pool so personally the crunchiness only needed to go so far.

[Tegam]

Seems this baby likes music, whenever I turn the car radio on the kid goes crazy

Also almost at the traumatise the kids stage and have to ask 'who wants to help mummy put her undies on'... Oh the joys of pregnancy

[Tegam]

Meow. I just saw your ticker.... 30 weeks wow slow down women there just aren't that many weeks between us

[Tegam]

I can't wait to get nesting, right now I'm too tired but as soon as I finish work I have a list I want to get through. Not going to worry about meals much as the Thermomix will do the hard stuff, but not looking forward to the $$$ of the meat shop to fill the freezer.

[Eenee]

I can't wait to start nesting either would be nice to help me to get some stuff done around here lol

30 weeks eeek excitement time coming! Going to get even more clucky!

[Tegam]

Have another baby eenee

[Sterla]

I definitely had a big nesting surge around 30 weeks. It has settled down now... I'm kind of hoping I have another one soon, cause I still have things to do for bubba, but I can't be bothered most of the time haha!
I think I have more to do to organise for the birth than the baby though!

[meow]

Have you been able to get a list of things your MW suggests you have at the birth now Sterla?

[Sterla]

I haven't seen my primary midwife since 28 weeks! I saw my secondary midwife in between, but am due to see my primary next week. I will definitely be grilling her about all that stuff then so I can get myself organised!

One thing she did mention last time was hot water for filling up the birth pool. We have a smallish hot water cylinder, and we do run out of hot water sometimes. Has anyone else had this problem? And if so, what were your solutions? My midwife said in some other births they spend a lot of time heating big pots of water over the stove just to top up the pool.

[HotI]

i borrowed a large urn each time, but as i generally only made it into the pool minutes before baby arrived, we didn't make use of it either time.

do you have a community group you could borrow/hire an urn from?