I will say Bella -


They grow up. And thank god for that lol Its so hard to see the forest for the tree's when they are little, but when they grow up and get into the 8-9yo range things do get so much easier! They sleep for the most part, they are independent, you can try and reason with them, they can be helpful. While I do find the older boys a bit more of a handful than a toddler (that I can easily influence), they are easier on the whole. They are 8, nearly 7 and nearly 6 now - at school full time, can dress themselves, can feed themselves, can shower themselves, they sleep! So the chaos may remain slightly but overall it gets easier. You just have to survive those early years. Hard to believe any of us do though isnt it