Baby is helping you enjoy every last moment as a pregnant woman Tegam. And yes, they will be here very soon xx
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Baby is helping you enjoy every last moment as a pregnant woman Tegam. And yes, they will be here very soon xx
Tegam: yup. baby will come. i always found it really weird after DD1 was born at 38 weeks that i had to 'wait' longer for the others. i also kept imagining how old my eldest was at the same time hahaha.
Meow: the room is full of so many randoms on that show...like a circus! i just cannot get out of my head how absolutely exhausting it must be to push out a posterior baby on your back in stirrups (as this chick on the episode was made to do). my posterior babies were all on my knees on water, so cannot imagine having to do it with gravity (and my spine) against me!
The bit i hate the most is watching them pull them out by their head straight after its delivered. i think of how long some of mine sat there waiting for the next contraction. Cant be nice to be pulled and tugged like that.
My mum laid on her back on bed with a friend and my older sister holding her legs back while pushing out a posterior baby at home. To this day I still don't understand?!
I find those "party in the labour room" things really weird.
I don't want anyone there! Meow you hid in a garage ;)
Its just that i feel fine, normal and no different to 32 weeks, seems like its a bad joke that everyone keeps expecting me to have had the baby! It is also cruel to make me wait the longest hehe
So my midwife had to cancel today, she had a hospital birth. i get a text this afternoon, "can you come to the clinic thursday afternoon at 4.30pm" when i said no she said "Friday 10.30am" I said "if i make it to then i will be 8 days more pregnant than i have ever been and with my history of quick births i don't think i will want to travel 35mins to come to you?" So she said "well you don't really need one so lets just make it next monday…. That will be a fortnight since i have seen her. Im not really worried but surely this isn't the time to dump appointments??? If i go into labour she will find the time to come so why wouldn't you find it tomorrow or wednesday? Am i being sensitive about this? I have never been this pregnant, i am having another home birth as i had a negative experience last birth, she knows i was upset that the last MW did come when i needed her at the end of my last pregnancy. I am paying $4000 for the comfort and support of a MW. And I'm going 2 weeks without an appointment….. My mum thinks its because she thinks i will birth before then but hey we ALL thought i would have birthed by now….. Baby is moving and i don't have any signs of there being any concern but she didn't even ask that? She didn't ask if i needed or wanted to see her before then…..
Please be honest, don't just be on my side, this feels odd but i am tired and hormonal :)
I'd be really cranky & upset if she couldn't make it one day I'd expect her the next day not the following week!
It's not what you need this late in pregnancy at all !!
I tell you honestly if she was mine I would not be happy
Can you talk to her about it ?
Tegam... I found at the end of the pregnancies alot of small things needed to be ironed out in preparation before birth. How you communicate with your midwife and trust her is not a small one, it's a big one. Even though you say she 'knows' your history, it's a little bit like having expectations of your partner, sometimes they need it clearly said what you want and need( again and again and again). I would ring her (text is not clear) and say you are feeling really vulnerable and tell her what is going on, give her a chance to respond, you can't guess why she is making the appointment the way she is, be clear, open and honest with her, if it is emotional show her... smooth it out... and if you do birth fast, do not going anywhere... I have super quick births and you need to feel safe and stay in xxx
Thanks ladybirdflies. Not sure how I'm going to attack it or if at all. True be told that I just don't want to cause too much stress. I don't want anyone here anyway. It was more the principle. Ahhhh I don't know what I'm rambling about xx
I would be devastated Tegam. I am one of those ppl that never want to put people out so acquiese rather easily to them (rather than speak up and demand the attention that I need).
That said, even for me, 2 weeks is too long between drinks so to speak, so i would call her up and beg her to come sooner as you are feeling emotional and not in the right headspace for the birth (speak openly about it, it's what she is working from ITMS). I am certain that she will come then...i think that once you are beyond that first or even second baby, you are treated as a bit of an 'old hand' that knows the ropes and our overworked IMs sometimes rely too much on that instead of showering us in enough love and support. Maybe go into character and try to remember how you were as a first timer and demand lots of answers and ask lots of questions lol! that might get her around haha!
I'd be really sad and feel as though I don't matter to her Tegam, so I understand you feeling upset. Like Cassius said, I bet she's thinking "5th time mum who is going to rock this birth, she's totally fine" and not at all thinking she's letting you down and is unaware how much you need her.
With my DS2's birth I told my MW a few times that postpartum care was the most important thing for me as that's when I fell apart when I had DS1. So she "knew" but when the time came she had a flurry of births and I got bumped a lot and really struggled. I ended up bringing it up with her a few weeks later and she was really surprised and said she had no idea I was struggling so much and she was thinking "2nd time mum who had a great birth, she's rocking it and fine this time". So I agree with ladybirdflies that you may need to spell it out.
If you don't want to "cause stress" how about asking her for a phone chat to go debrief your feelings at this late stage of pregnancy? You could just say "I know it's hard for both of us to get to each other at the moment but I really need to chat, could we make a time to talk on the phone?". That way you're reaching out to her and letting her know you are struggling and you need her, but you don't have to be demanding if that's not your style.
I think I'm over it. If I'm at all concerned still next week when I see her I'll say something. Right now the only thing I need is labour to make me feel better lol!
Having a teary or a tanty can be a sign labour is close. xx
My LO kept me waiting til 41 + 3, after #1 and #2 were both born at 41 weeks.
I know I have I nothing to complain about. It's just hard that it's ok that some womens average is 40+ weeks but no one gets that mine in more 38weeks. I'm struggling/worried. At this stage all the others had come. Dd2 was three weeks old now. An average is an average and if it's normal from 38-42 weeks then I'm well overdue which is starting to worry me. If I go to 42weeks that's 6 weeks more than other pregnancies. Seems odd to me, why would this one need 6 more weeks when dd was normal and healthy.
Ah Tegam, I feel for you. I too would be highly annoyed, but I too don't like causing stress or worry to others. But you need to put yourself first and if you're starting to worry then your midwife needs to know. Maybe try and have a big cry, get it all out and then maybe that will send you into labour?!? Big hugs!!
Lurking but wanted to say congratulations Meow on the birth of your little girl! And whoever else's grand arrival Ive missed.
Good luck for the upcoming births too, esp yours Tegam! Im so excited for you!
Thanks raupe, I will try to remember that come morning:
Hugs tegam. Eddie was born at 41+2 as opposed to the 40+6 for maddie. And since Mima was born at 42+2 I had kinda expected he would come sooner as well. Which made waiting so much harder. Hugs to you. You have so much going on, and so many little people needing your time and love. I applaud you. You are doing great.
As for waters, I had my first broken during labour to "help speed things up". It didn't. My second babies head was born in the caul, and then the waters burst behind her head before the body was born. My third baby the waters burst about a min or two prior to Eddie being born. I would think form a evolutionary point of view, that it would be best to keep baby sealed off for as long as possible to protect them.
Plug- mine looked like a thick lump of mucous the first and second time. With a light streak of blood. Third time I got what looked like a thin string of snot and when labour started I got bloody mucous.
Losec is starting to work a little, he is in slightly less pain. He still has gas and I think it is a big part. I have contacted a LC just to double check that he doesn't have a lip tie, as I think he does, but I am not sure that is is tight enough to cause a problem. I am just dotting I's and crossing T's
Wouldn't it be nice if it was a tie bella, definitely worth looking into. Glad the losec has started to help, even of its a little bit! Lucky he is so cute.
Had my first midwife appointment today with the CMP. I am so excited now, it all seems real that we are well on our way to finally having a homebirth! They even allowed me to decline the GD testing. I have my anatomy scan in a couple of weeks then my next appt is 24wks. Ive already got a spot for the birth pool picked out in our family room, so lucky our new house has oodles of space.
:dance:
Only hiccup is DH is not entirely on board with the whole idea. Any advice on how to bring him around? Books, articles etc?
Freya that sounds lovely! Just be positive all the time Freya and talk like its all normal and happening. DH won't think twice about it xx
I need some birthing vibes girls have had a bloody show and early contractions coming
My midwife wants me to go to bed and sleep ! Sounds impossible
Fingers crossed this is it and bubs is coming :-)
Wonderful Freya! Did your husband come to your appointment? I've heard that helps a lot of men too as they build a relationship with the midwives and see how knowledgeable they are.
Thinking of you kellbell!! At least try to rest until the hard work starts. So exciting!
Sending loads of beautiful birthing vibes Kellbell. I can't wait to see your BA xx
Oh how wonderful Kellbell!! Many birth blessings to you and baby!!
Freya: wahoo on an awesome appointment!
Woo hoo Kellbell, sending lots of birthing vibes your way!
We had a beautiful homebirth at 6.30 this morning :-)
Of our chubby girl 4.3kg born on our lounge room next to the pool
However she became unwell at 9.30 and went blue so she's in the nicu
At the moment . Scaryiest moments of my life but she's stable this arvo
Just popping in.
Congrats Kell on the arrival of your little girl.
Sorry to hear she is in the nicu now & I hope she is out soon x
Huge congrats Kellbell, so sorry to hear she is in the nicu, hope she is back home with you soon. Hope you are feeling well.
Congrats Kellbell, sorry to hear she is in NICU hope she is home with yousoon.
Congratulations kelbel! I'm so sorry that she is sick tho. How unbelievably scary! Glad we have wonderful nicu's at times like that, but I hope she doesn't need them for long. Xx
Congratulations kellbell! It sounds like a great birth... speedy if you were next to the pool?
But I'm so sorry she wasn't well and had to transfer to nicu. Must have been so scary. I'm glad she's stable and I hope she's back home again soon.
She's a very sick baby at the Moment any prayers for her are appreciated
Sedated & ventilated :-(
Thinking of you and your little one Kellbell, sending many healing vibes your way xx
Yeah I laboured in water the whole time was awesome
Loved my hypobirthing music and moving around . Our hot water ran out so hubby was filling the pool with pots
Kids woke up just as she was born so beautiful .
She dipped her heart rate at the end so midwife wanted me to squat outside the pool
She hit the perineum and was out in 30 seconds 2nd contraction out off the water!
Breast fed like a champ and we were all snuggled up in bed when she got sick
Midwife stayed with us till 8pm last night - she was such a support .
Her Name is A.melia M.ichelle
What a wonderful welcome into the world you were able to give little A.melia. My heart breaks that she is struggling so much now. Thinking of her and you too mama. Please keep us updated whenever you have the chance. Be strong A.melia xxx
:baby: Babies Arrived :nappy:
-2012-
Jennifer13- Baby GIRL born at home 4th January 2012
Bella29- Baby GIRL born at home 10th January 2012
HotI - Baby BOY born at home 21st January 2012
*Ash*- Baby BOY born at home 14th February 2012
loulabelle - Baby BOY born at home 24th February 2012
Cricket - Baby GIRL born at home 15th May 2012
chocorama - May 2012
...Em - Baby BOY born at home 7th June 2012
BellyBelly - Baby GIRL born 11th August 2012
Tanya - Baby BOY born at home 16th August 2012
phynna - Baby GIRL born at home 8th September 2012
lady_neon - Baby BOY born 27th September 2012
Ambersky - Baby BOY born at home 3rd October 2012
Cassius - Baby GIRL born at home 4th November 2012
Ice cream - September 2012
mirriumu - November 2012
Pumpkinzulu - Baby GIRL born at home 12th December 2012
- 2013 -
Sara - Baby BOY born 18th January 2013
turtlejane - Baby GIRL born at home 31st January 2013
Bellany - Baby BOYS born 14th March 2013
Ree*Ree - Baby BOY born 18th March 2013
Aimz - Baby BOY born at home 21st March 2013
Beatrix - Baby GIRL born at home 7th April 2013
Rubyshoes - Baby BOY born at home April 2013
Dollyroux - Baby BOY and GIRL born 29th April 2013
HomeStyleMumma - Baby GIRL born 8th May 2013
ladybirdflies - Baby GIRL born at home 23rd May 2013
Cricket - Baby BOY born at home 26th August 2013
Sepata - Baby BOY born at home 31st August 2013
WilliamsMummy -Baby BOY born at home 17th September 2013
Loulabelle - Baby BOY born at home 17th September 2013
Sunnylove - Baby GIRL born at home 2nd November 2013
DotFace - Baby BOY born at home 9th November 2013
Eenee - Baby BOY born at home 22nd November 2013
TeniBear - Baby GIRL born at home 21st December 2013
*The_Mrs.* - Baby GIRL born at home 31st December 2013
-2014-
Jennifer13 - Baby GIRL born at home 1st January 2014
Arcadia - Baby BOY born at home 30th January 2014
Special - Baby BOY born at home 6th February 2014
HotI - Baby GIRL born at home 23rd February 2014
Smoke Jaguar - Baby GIRL born at home 18th March 2014
Bella29 - Baby BOY born at home 13th May 2014
Ozstar - Baby GIRL born at home 20th May 2014
Sterla - Baby GIRL born at home 30th July 2014
Meow - Baby GIRL born at home 26th August 2014
Ladybug - Baby GIRL born at home 2nd September 2014
phyrephly - Baby BOY born at home 10th September 2014
e_p - Baby GIRL born at home 11th September 2014
kellbell - Baby GIRL born at home 19th September 2014
:pregnant: Babies On Their Way :bellyrubs:
Tegam - September
Ilithyia - January
Love to you and your baby girl Kellbel. Best wishes that you are home again soon.
Thinking of you Kellbell and sending lots of love, to both you and your baby x
Love to you and your precious girl Kellbell.