Homebirth General Discussion #3

[Eenee]

PZ: i'm looking forward to labour and birth also, can't wait infact- hurry up january!

[Tegam]

PZ: i'm looking forward to labour and birth also, can't wait infact- hurry up january!

that sure is one text message i am looking forward to getting!!!!

[Roryrory]

PZ congrats again. You don't need a doc's referral to go to the Sunshine hossy HB program, from memory

Hello to all - we are good here - Rose is feeding really well and super-cute. Will post birth story soon

[Roryrory]

double post!!

[PumpkinZulu]

PZ congrats again. You don't need a doc's referral to go to the Sunshine hossy HB program, from memory

Hello to all - we are good here - Rose is feeding really well and super-cute. Will post birth story soon

Yay cannot WAIT to read that birth story! The lady I spoke to on the phone today said I did need a refferal, and the form says so too. Boo to refferals lol, a waste of time! I might call the number they gave me tomorrow and ask again. So Rory, what was your experience like? The care? Did you go into the hospy for your scans (for example 12 week etc) or somewhere else?

[Tegam]

Yay Rory, nice to hear from you! Cant wait to read birth story

Smidges name is most likely Rose, Rosie or Molly Rose. So i love hearing you talk about your Rose!!!

[Tegam]

Well i sent a rambling email to the lovely MW that was my homebirth MW with Tom but rememeber she missed the birth cause it was so quick... Please remember i wrote this in the middle of the night and hit send without re reading incase i then didnt send it!


Dear ^&%&%$%#$,

Wow where has the time gone???

How are you? How was your trip to &*^^$% ? Amazing?? I bet.

Well i think the below is going to be a bit of a dribble so please hold in there

Well i am 28weeks today Holy cow, best start trying to get my head around the idea that this is really going to happen

I have been on a bit of a rollercoaster as to what to do with the delivery of this little one.

As you know there was a lot of stress around DS birth with DH being away and missing DD2 birth. I am not proud of the way i handled myself or the situation. Maybe i am remembering it a little worse than it was but mum assures me that no, it wasnt very nice....

Not sure i mentioned it to you but i went and saw the OB that did the Op for the ectopic at the start of this pregnancy. His advice was to be induced at 36 yes 36 weeks and have steriods OMG no thank you. So dumped him rather quickly. The found out that the OB that was so supportive at the redlands public hospital had gone private so i thought it might be a good idea to see her. Well you guessed it not so supportive now she gets paid the big bucks. 36weeks inducement or a hospital stay until baby is born! Hello i have 3 other kids that i never leave and you want me to teach them that a mummy needs to stay away for 2 or more weeks waiting in hospital for a baby! Thank you but no i wont be seeing you again either...

Pubic hospital. Explained my delema over fast & early labours. Dr seems nice and just said dont plan on being at home (risk to me and baby blaa blaa blaa) but to just call and ambulance...... Then i get to my next MW appointment at the hospital and she is reading to me that the Dr has written "for induction at 36weeks"!!

So where does that leave me! Well homebirth of course but the only thing that is stopping me is the cost. Since we have moved we have a much bigger morgage and the money is just not there... And I also have the huge thought that if we have paid you, DH and i to a certain extent will be putting me under pressure to call in time to have you here.... I totally understand why you get paid your full amount even if you miss the birth, i am not asking you to do anything special for us. But just trying to limit that same negitive pressure that were on me when i had Thomas.

So where does that leave me... Well to some extent at ease with the fact that this baby has a right to choose where and when it comes, which yes probably means a free birth. Either are home or BILO hehe. Free birth - NOT something i thought i would ever concider or do.

But I also do NOT want to call an ambulance. I feel that i have more experience and infact probably DH does than they would. I do not need some actioned ready stranger at my birth or rushing me after.

SO (i did warn you that this would be a boring dribble) what i am asking you is would you? do you? do just post natal care? or pre and post but not birth? would this/could this include the birth cert paperwork? I really really dont want my girl to think mummy has to take baby to hospital after. I just want to lie in bed with my family and enjoy our new baby.

Can you please (and i know its a lot to ask you out of your time) take the time to tell me your optinions on what i have written.

I know as a professional you can not support a freebirth. I agree with you but in reality after 2 very quick births this baby really is going to come when its ready and on its own time. That is something i can not control and feel better admiting to myself than trying to control it with medical intervention.

Thank you %^$$#$, you really are a lovely person and i respect you,so i look forward to hearing from you, i hope,

Cheers Tegam.


Well what do you think??

[Cassius2]

well done Tegam i think that it was written from the heart and is a first step in getting what is best for you and baby xx (also, mebbe it is worth PMing Tanya on here for practicalities etc things to consider if you do indeed end up birthing without a midwife being able to make it...you've read her latest birth story no doubt!).

[Cassius2]

i also looked forward to labour. but also had moments of 'awww crap, a baby has to come outta mah vagina...awww crap!

i thought that i was mega loud at times during my labour this time, but apparently not lol! so you guys may think you're loud, but mebbe not!! (oh and blowing raspberries is an awesome way of directing the yelling back to relaxing muscles etc...instead of focusing on the throat, the energy is expended mostly on the uterus...apparently).

Em: woo hoo! i am also another looking forward to your January BA!!!

Tegam: we read 'hello baby' to Leila. she loved it! i reckon it really helped 'speak' to her in relation to what was happening. at least it taught her that mummy likes her back rubbed during contractions and that we all have to lie together in the Big Bed after baby is born lol!

Arimeh: you're onto a good thing with Ina May!! she is the most awesome. full stop!

Rory: yay for HB stories!!!!!! mwah she looks sooo tiny in your ticker photo *mwah*

[onthefly]

Oh yeah, I've done guide to childbirth adn now on spiritual midwifery. I am loving the hippie vibe

Hello Baby - I want to get that one. Will have to see if my ABA group has it when we reconvene.

[Tegam]

Oh yeah, I've done guide to childbirth adn now on spiritual midwifery. I am loving the hippie vibe

Hello Baby - I want to get that one. Will have to see if my ABA group has it when we reconvene.

Yes Marcellus: the group probably would have one, if not get them to buy it! its so lovely. Even DH said tonight after reading it for the first time "thats a really lovely book" also DD1 Miss 6 has asked if we could please not take it back to the library... So i thought that maybe we'll buy it!

[meow]

We have Hello Baby but my son is not so keen on it. I scared him off by making "the sound Mummy makes when the baby comes out"! He'll watch it though if I read it and I make up a shortened version of the story with our own names. He smiles and likes the page of the baby just born so that's good!

Book depository has it for about $9 and they have free postage