Homebirth General Discussion #3

[Phteven]

continuing from HERE

[PumpkinZulu]

*Copied from old thread*

Is it lame or naieve to say that I'm REALLY looking forward to labour?

Well I booked an appt with the GP to get this preg confirmed, it's not til next Friday as I'll be 5w2d by then and a dodgy GP poas should be positive by then lol! And then I've got a form to fill in and send with my refferal to Sunshine to get this homebirth underway

ETA Cassius, a friend of mine gave me her Calmbirth Coursebook thing and cd...I can't wait to get into them!

[Schmickers]

Continued from your old thread here: https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...-134227-8.html

[onthefly]

too many cooks....

[PumpkinZulu]

[Arimeh]

PZ, I don't think you are lame at all.. I was really looking forward to labouring... till I was 2 hours away from giving birth and then I didn't want to do it any more!! LOL

[onthefly]

I'm looking forward to it too. Have been pretty much since the last time. Not because I want to repeat that experience, mind. I figure if I could cope through crappy circumstances then I'll be fine with better circumstances.

[PumpkinZulu]

Oh wow i'd love to see it, where is it available? Do you think there'd be a torrent? I loved the business of being born, but would have loved more births in it!

[Tegam]

I havent seen the business of being born or the orgasmic birth... Where do i get copies of these, they sound....hmmmm .... interesting hehe

[Cassius2]

BOBB is cheap as chips from Amazon...that's where i got mine...or you could get it from the BB online store...

well, DH and i kissed in between contractions...the bearing down part... but def no orgasms lol!

[Cassius2]

double the love

[TeniBear]

Right, I'm gonna pop my head in here again until this birth centre thing is sorted. Right now, I'm not even sure I have the energy to fight, so I'm now looking at IMs instead. Jeebus they're out of my price range, though I'll have to find someone who's willing to work out a payment plan with us, and/or take part of our baby bonus as payment. Sigh... If only homebirths were "bulk billed" I wouldn't have to jump through a million hoops!

[Arimeh]

Teni - we must have the best system down here - my midwife is only $1500 - thats including all appointments, birth and a week of visits after the birth. Plus they take it in instalments - $500 at 16 weeks, $500 at 32ish weeks and $500 after you have the baby. So awesome.

[meow]

I know what you mean... it is expensive. Once you've worked out that you are spending that money and can let go of that side of things it feels SO good though. Having an IM has given me such faith in the experience I'm about to have. Let us know how you go- I think many midwives will work out payment plans.

Had a great appointment with my midwife on Monday. Feeling great at the moment- apart from the sore pelvis and awkward walking due to baby's head being engaged! Baby is anterior on the left though so hopefully they stay there now

Only downer is my midwife has a gap in her bookings so she's taking the opportunity to go away on holiday when I'm 37 weeks. She'll come back Nov 6th- and I'll be 38 weeks on Nov 4th. She kept asking if I thought I'll go early and she should come back on the 4th but I feel silly saying that when I could go to 41 weeks... who knows? Now I feel like I'll end up having the baby at 37 weeks!! I have great backup midwives but it's a bit of a mental bummer at the moment.

[PumpkinZulu]

OMG I absolutely adored Orgasmic Birth!!!

[PumpkinZulu]

I know it will take a bit to let it all sink in babe. My honest opinion, is that I agree with her. Mainly on the fact that, although your birth *probably* will be normal and just like your others, you can never know for certain, unfortunately I do think that she got a bit stuck on the buzzword, 'freebirth', but I think as an IM practicing in these times, it's hard to see someone mention it and not feel the need to comment on it the way she did. I thought your email was very reasonable, and I do think she got stuck on that (freebirth) and didn't address your email in it's entirety. I really hope you can find another option, maybe even another midwife?

[Cassius2]

i think that what her intention with the reply was to highlight that her role at a birth is important (not that you need to be told!) and goes beyond 'making it' to the birth...this was my impression (i agree that she was emotive, but i guess given the current environment: particularly in certain states of Aus, this is to be expected).

my impression is that she would recommend that you go the whole hog and book for a HB. which of course holds the very real possibility of her not making it in time for the baby coming out bit...BUT it does mean that even if she were to miss that bit that she would be there immediately after attending to you and bubs and going through placental checks etc and providing support (in whatever capacity...measuring, weighing, checking for tears, retention, or at the worst, helping with resus or helping with transfer).

in the antenatal period i guess you guys could come up with various action plans that suit you all (going through possible scenarios etc)...and this *could* be really helpful in allowing you to 'claim' or 'own' your birth no matter how it happens ITMS.

of course, this all comes at cost...for me, it would be worth it, because having her arrive in that immediate post birth moment would be really important, BUT that is my journey...

[Eenee]

Tegam: hun. I guess I can see the point of the letter but i don't think she went the right way about it- I think she was stressing how important it is to have a midwife, but instead of just saying that she used unecessary scare tactics. Which I really think you didn't need to hear because your distressed enough as it is about the situation. Stop doubting yourself hun, if anyone was capable of birthing on your own it'd be you. Trust your body and i'm sure if you thought something was not right you could call an ambulance. So now you've got to think whether forking out the money for a midwife who may not make it is worth it? Also if you are not comfortable with this midwife are there any other IM in the area that you could use that may not be as expensive. Either that or you can come live with me for the last month of the pregnancy and use my IM, she only charges per hour + fee for the paper work. Sorry im not very helpful you are usually the one with the wise words!