hey HB ladies - just a quick question - did you all still have scans? 12 wk and 20 week?
Just curious :)
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hey HB ladies - just a quick question - did you all still have scans? 12 wk and 20 week?
Just curious :)
Beautiful Arcadia!
sneakysparkle: yep. had both scans and bloods etc. just didnt do the GTT or the GBS.
Yes, I did. In fact, I had scans at 6w, 8w, 10w, 12w AND I'll be having the 20 week one too. I have a history of recurrent miscarriage and also have a history of Spina Bifida and Anencephaly in my immediate family. As much as I would have liked to avoid them I have way too many fear/anxiety issues during pregnancy.:
I had a dating scan at 7-8 weeks, and then a scan at 20 weeks. I didn't have the 12-13 week NT scan because no matter the outcome of that scan I wasn't going to terminate so there was no point in me having it done. I didn't have any blood tests at all. Not the GTT. Didn't have the GBS swab either.
^same here^
The henna was done by a woman who comes to your home/event and she does about ten people an hour...there are a few around...I just went with whoever was available that day. Look up gumtree or just google mendhi or henna artist
Yelp all the same normal tests!:
I'm still here...
Serious prelabour happening all week. Lost some of my plug on Wed, have had one off contractions through the night since Friday last week and am crampy today.
Pleeeeaaasseee come soon baby.
i have everything crossed that bubba will be in your arms in no time sweet birthing mama :crossfingers:
*mwah* hard to focus on with prelabour and all that jazz, but this is a wonderful, magical journey you are about to go on, embrace, smile and go with it :) have you read over your last birth story? i read yours in the days before I had marta and it really helped to get me there xx
I'm still here too. No surprise that I'm 10 days over and still waiting....
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happy birthing girls!:
Thanks so much beautiful women...I have a birthing video I am going to watch tonight, but I should read over my birth story too. I think I worry about setting up expectations about how it should be, but this is already such a different birthing journey. I appreciate it for it's lessons in patience and strength of heart.
Big hugs Mel...our babies know what they're doing...the hard part is trusting their judgement!!!
Ooo... I've beenMIA so I thought I'd missed these babies. Sooo soon now. Rhinking of you both! That's thinking. On my phone and can't seem to go back to edit.
this is what i struggled with too. i was worried that i had set the bar high and would set myself up to be disappointed. but i think the beauty of HB is that even when things dont go to plan you are still surrounded by beautiful gorgeous midwives that love you and your family and want the very best for all of you. so i focused my 'dreaming' of the birth not as expectation as such but as that, a dream, something positive to aim for ITMS.:
:clap: You are amazing Cassius, so well said :clap::
It's funny but the closer I get to d day, the more I worry about screaming in front of my midwife and losing control, because of what happened last time. I spoke to her yesterday about it and she just looked me in the eye and said "Mel, I've only ever had 1 lady that made no noise and we didn't like it cos we couldn't tell what stage of labour she was at. Screaming is not losing control,it's being in control, the way that your body is supposed to handle labour".
I feel better now. Just wish I knew what was keeping her from making an appearance! I'm so cranky and irritable lately, everything DH does gets on my nerves and I spend a lot of time being peeved and venting to my mum lol!!
I just wanna know what I'm doing wrong to not be going into labour.... :(
I was just pondering my HB the other day and wondering "was it amazing?" And I decided it was just plain old normal. A HB is just normal birth, the way your birth is going to be. And that is a very beautiful thing. Relax, go with the ride, it will be perfect because it will be yours and just as it's supossed to be.
Gee there really are some wise women in this thread!:
............i wanna have another baby................... all this talk of HB!
you are doing nothing wrong gorgeous woman! i can't comment on the perspective of a "post-dater" but seriously babe, your bubbas want to have that extra time with you xx have you tried 'talking' to your little one and telling them how beautiful they are and how beautiful it is to be born? i did this with Marta. a bit of background: i was having a rather horrendous time with my mum (she was at ours to look after DD1 while i was in labour but is from interstate so was there a couple of weeks before Marta arrived...) and i remember that i had stalled an earlier attempt by marta to come. i was so fraught and hung up on it all being 'perfect' (perfect birthing space, emotional charge of the house etc etc) that i *think* i kinda scared her off and made her (marta that is lol) think that mebbe ol' womb was a better place to hang for awhile lol. in the end i just apologised in a way to her one night in the shower and told her that i love her and that it is ok and that our birth journey will be awesome and full of love and that she is welcome despite my mood that i will love and fiercely protect her come what may. i dont know if she got any of that but man it made me feel better bahahaha!:
Meow: so cool to see you in here babe! i was hanging out at this new cafe i found and they have a big orange wall and i thought of you :)
haha! me too! DH is already clucky :o:
Oh i missed this, sorry love. I really dont have many words of wisdom. Just be yourself. You dont owe it to anyone to be quiet/loud/polite or rude! This is your journey and you will do it perfectly for you!:
If it helps i have always been quiet and in control of birth........then yelled like a teenager with Molly :redface:
Cant wait to see you BA and hey havent all yours been late? So infact your not due yet? Be strong!
Have you found the BA tegam?
WHAT.... Im off NOW
I am so slow..... Thanks MadB
:leap: :leap: THERE WERE TWO BAs :leap: :leap:
Congratulations girls..... Such exciting news!
Why havent you written your birth stories yet??? :rofl:
CONGRATULATIONS BEAUTIFUL BIRTHING WOMEN!!
Welcome to the world little bubba girl and baby James!!!!!!!
Im so excited :)
Congrats Mel & Arcadia! Cant wait to hear your birth stories :)
Thanks so much everyone!!! :leap:
I haven't slept since Friday night, so I will attempt a birth story when I get some sleep...I very empowering birth, and I am in awe if my body right now. Can't wait to share! X
neither can we arcadia :) (but take your time...enjoy all those cuddles and suggly warm newborn cuddles for as long as you need...in my case i swear that i could barely raise my head for 3 weeks lol (it was quite the birth high hahaha...in fact i think i am still riding it lol).
:loveshower: Arcadia and Mel :heartbeat: Can't wait to hear all about it girls!!
ssoooooo whose next??! is it you punkyZ??!
Ummm...I believe it is? But possibly not, I'll have to scroll back through to find out. I've got anywhere from 9 to 13 weeks left :o
Ooh! Go PZ!
I have 18 weeks to go (probably 20 knowing my uterus) so it's definately not me next!
Hi all, I uploaded my birth story...which is EPIC.
Homebirth of Baby James
...ok, about to read it...can i just say in the words of Big Kev: "i'm EXCITED!" :lol:
*mwah* what a gorgeous birth journey Arcadia!!! thank you so much for sharing that with us!
it's funny about the cord as similarly Marta had a loop tight around her neck and the waves functioned in a similar way. although as she was coming down the birth canal she was gently nodding her head, which now, we can see was her way of moving down without causing more stress on the short and tightly wrapped cord...these babies are amazing and have such an amazing ability to work out what they need when left to their own devices. imagine if we were forced to push these guys out with the direction of OBs and clocks...
Arcadia! oh, what can I say? Just beautiful....
I did post a response in your thread earlier today but it said I needed mod approval. I just checked now and my comments are still not showing- hopefull they turn up! But in case they don't, I wanted to drop in here and say WOW, amazing....Such a beautiful birth and a fabulously written birth story. What an insight in to your emotional journey too. Thank you so much. I loved reading it.
hi all. I thought I might sneak back into this group. Bub #2 is cooking and we've spent the last few months trying to decide what kind of antenatal care and birth we want. Dh in particular is nervous about a HB and would prefer we go to hospital, for just in case. I flip between the two options, depending on my emotional state. I know intellectually the birth place had nothing to do with DS passing away. Nothing would have stopped that. But the fear of losing another bub is always there.
We've interviewed a couple of OBs and decided to stay with our midwife for antenatal care. Hospitals give me the heeby jeebies, especially maternity clinics. Everytime I have to go to one for an appt I dont sleep for days. Instead, we're going to have all our appts in our lounge room at times that suit both of us, like weekends and evenings.
We met with an OB at the RWH who boosted my very low self-confidence by telling us we might as well have all our care with our midwife and we'd be fine for a HB :o He said his antenatal care wouldnt be any different to our midwife's, as we're not high risk. That meant so much to me. I felt like I was 10ft tall after that. He was the one who was on call and approved the vaginal breech with DS, though he'd clocked off by the time he was born. He was also the one who gave us the autopsy results, so funnily enough, there's a relationship there. One thing we've found is we dont want to deal with strangers or have to explain the history. Dh especially doesnt feel comfortable with it. Maybe I'm more used to it, having had to be the one to have strangers dealing with the most intimate areas throughout birth etc.
The downside of going to hospital, apart from the interventions and emotional baggage, is we dont know who will be on call. Though, we have our IM and she was great last time. The upside may be we feel safer if anything goes wrong.
Theupside of HB are many :) including not having to debate with strangers about my care and why I want things they way I do. The downside may be, if at any time I panic or something goes wrong, my adrenalin and DH's will go through the roof and I worry about what that would do to the birth process and bub.
For now, we're not making a definate decision. I like to think we'll plan for a HB like last time and transfer if necessary. I've told Dh his emotional needs are as important as mine with this decision. I need him to be on board and not be filling the birth space with fear. So I want us to work on that. I think birth is normal and should be treated that way and I'd like us to get back in that space.
Obviously, if this bub turns out to be affected with the same genetic disorder, that changes everything. But that's NOT going to happen.
Meanwhile I'll pop in here to read about how normal birth is. I do not want to read another disaster story.
welcome tashybabe!!! :hello:
it is so joyful to see you in here! I am so excited and thrilled :dance:
you guys seem to have found a pretty good arrangement with the OB and the IM i reckon. if you do get a bit scared, panicky during this journey, you know that you can get your IM to request an appt with him for you. mebbe even one where he is present with all of you (IM included ITMS). anything is possible.
As someone that has had a PTSD related to a previous birth experience all i can really recommend is to tackle issues head on. the fears, concerns, even niggling doubts. like you said, you want to minimise the possible impacts of a trigger not only during the birth, but also in the last few weeks. I can HIGHLY recommend seeing my friend and calmbirth practitioner for both you and DH. she worked in two private intensive sessions with DH and I and then in a group setting through her course and it is what really rallied me and helped me for the times that panic did set in and i could feel the adrenalin kicking in (this is also pre birth and post birth!). i know that i sound like a broken record if you have seen my other posts about this, but it was one of the best decisions we made for that journey.
build your arsenal of support and backup plans (for me, i had a backup plan with a mother baby unit for example, if i found myself losing the plot postnatally...that was a hard plan to have in place for all sorts of reasons but ultimately once it was in place i never ever thought about it again IYKWIM...and i have no idea what happened to the booking lol).
another important step that we took early on was to talk it all through with our therapist. she was fantastic and specialised in all things birth trauma and postnatal anxieties etc etc. she was fan-diddly-tastic with DH and worked with us both to achieve a shared goal and shared journey to get that goal (can sometimes be two different things). after we agreed to go the HB route and we were both back on track and kickin' old skool style we only saw her at key points that we identified might be trigger moments (like the last few weeks of the pregnancy for me).
anyway, i have blabbered on heaps already and could keep going until the cows come home hahaha!
love you sweets and it is so great to see back in here and bring on October!!! wahoooo!
Tashy YAYAYYAYAYAY and welcome. Sounds like you are in a great place at the moment re birth options and what a great OB you have found... Can i just say that i had two beautiful hospital births then a FANTASTIC homebirth... i got a little ****y and re entered the medical system. I was let down and for the first time in my life i have huge regrets re Mollys birth. The strangers, the difference of opinions your get the, no knowing whos on call and who you can call. I am that upset by the events that i cant write a birth story...... Im here in this thread so i guess my view is bias but even DH says if i were to ever have another baby i would not be allowed to step foot in a hospital unless it was the last option and that everyone having a baby should have one MW they know follow them through their pregnancy...
Sorry for the rant :redface:
And what cassius said....congrats and bring on OCTOBER