Ash! I have been thinking of you! That's crap news about your midwife. I have everything crossed that the NZ one is available or you can get into the midwife program.

Before the birth, i dragged dh along to a few home birth things but he wasn't very interested until afterwards, then he was gushing about the benefits and spouting statistics (so he obviously was listening to my rants all through pg). For ds' bith he only got involved when I told him I was pushing and then he was tellig me to hold on bevause the midwives weren't there lol! I ignored him of course and kept pushing. He wasnt frazzled at all though!!

Dd was asleep for the whole thing. I found the thought of her bring at the birth stressful tbh and I think my body waited until she was asleep.