Thanks Cassius2
My labour was 1.5hrs (1st contraction to birth), with DD2, and thats the same amount of time that it would take the midwife in no traffic. The main reason for us not taking her on, was on the way home DH commented on how many times the midwife said she more than likely wouldnt make it but would talk him through it on the phone. When we actuallu talked it through, she kept on saying "When you go into labour, call me and I will come down, but more than likely I will miss the birth, but dont worry I will talk you through it on the phone and I'll get there not too long afterwards." Wasnt the most comforting concept for DH. For me, I dont want to be in labour worrying about whether the midwife will make it, especially after last time not knowing if we would make the hospital or deliver on the side of the road.
After we said we wouldnt be needing her services, I have thought about whether we did the right thing or not. But upon reflecting on the appointment, she wanted us to drive to her for every apppointment, preferably without the girls. It really didnt fit with what I had in mind.

So for now I shall be leaving this thread. My journey for a homebirth isnt happening this tiem round, well unless its a free birth. Instead of spending my energy trying to for the impoosible, I am going to enjoy my pregnancy, strengthen my mind and my resolve to make the most of this pregnancy, labour and birth. I know one thing for sure, its going to be one of the longest birth plans in history!

Thanks ladies