Yes I think it's unrealistic to say peoples comments don't affect us. At least you are aware of it. I thought I was stronger than them and look what happened with Molly's birth.

I think it's just that every pregnant women wants to do the right thing. And when the 'right' thing for our baby isn't the 'normal' thing it scares them as much as their comments scare us. It's like they hear ' you did the wrong thing having your baby at hospital, even if all we have said is 'I'm having my baby at home'.

With Tom I just use to use whatever come back I had in me at the time and it also depended on the audience. Sometimes it was sarcastic. 'well he is out third do it's not like it matters if something goes wrong'. To trying to educate people to just smiling.

Do what you have to for you. There is a huge battle that needs to happen to make home births normal but you have to worry about your fight first.

Hugs hoti