Homebirth General Discussion #7

[Tegam]

Oh bella. Sending you as much strength and patience I have. This end bit IMO is so much worse than the actual labour or those sleepless nights with a new born. No where or nothing is comfortable and you hurt and yes those stupid comment.... I don't know if you are someone that it would help but really we are all sympathetic and are happy to hear you vent as much as you need.

You are doing an amazing job. And yes it's very hard having everyone watching you.

I don't go post dates but I have terrible pre labour for weeks.

Again sending strength, love and patience

[meow]

Oh Bella!! Any feelings of contractions starting? I think this baby is very close now too. My second bubba came at 41 weeks- very close to you I think

[Bella29]

yeah having constant BH contractions. Having them thru the night and day. They don't really stop, they just get closer together and further apart. More intense and less intense. It has been like this for a few weeks now. The last few days they have been more intense as I think baby engaged about 3-4 days ago. He/she isn't able to have his head palpated around any more cos so deep in my pelvis. So yeah everything pointing towards things happening soon. I just don't want to get my hopes up in case I have a fair bit more of a wait iykwim??

With DD I could get my BH's down to 5 mins apart by walking, but things never kicked off. It was like that for weeks too. I guess I am just a long prelabour kinda girl

[Arcadia]

Very excited for you Bella!

I hope your midwives are on standby, because all that prelabour is doing fabulous stuff to send you into birthing very soon!

Let us know when you think it's happening so I can light a candle and send you blessings.

[*Ash*]

Sending love and light, Bella. Wishing you a peaceful and beautiful birth- whenever it happens. Wishing you strength and energy during this last stage of your pregnancy. I hope you can have some restful sleep. And yay for your DH for giving you the time and space to rest.

[HotI]

yeah having constant BH contractions. Having them thru the night and day. They don't really stop, they just get closer together and further apart. More intense and less intense.

what is the difference between a BH contractions and a labour contraction?

[Artechim]

HotI, I am not sure. I guess labour contractions end up with a baby and BH ones are just a pain

Bella, good luck! I hope it happens soon for you xx

Here is a little bit on home birth from the male perspective -A friend had a little baby boy the other day, at home in water just like she wanted. I went over to visit and we talked on and off for about 2 hours going over the general story of the birth and then other bits and pieces as she thought of them, comparisons with first birth etc as you do.

So today the father was over at our place talking to DH while they were shoveling gravel. The conversation went like this:
DH: How is baby going?
F: Good, way easier than #1. Were you at your DD2's water birth?
DH: yep
F: Did you catch her?
DH: Nope, the midwife did
F: I caught mine and passed him under wifes leg. It was good being at home.
DH: yeah, it is way easier being at home.
F: With #1 wife had to stay in hospital for 10 days because he was early
DH: That would have sucked. Being at home is much better.
F: Yeah, people were worried about it, but it was way easy.
DH: It isn't a problem. Do you want me to bring round the wheelbarrow?

Debrief over lol

[HotI]

HotI, I am not sure. I guess labour contractions end up with a baby and BH ones are just a pain

yeah, that was what i came up with too! wondered if there was more to it. i think i had BH a few weeks back, there were like muscle contractions with no pain, just kinda like waves across my tummy.