Homebirth general discussion #8

[loulabelle]

love it Jen!

hotI, sounds like you we're amazing! and I agree, don't be embarrassed by his size. it just proves that you can have a perfectly normal natural birth with a bigger baby, despite what many obs think.I get it though, although for the opposite reason, my babies are small and people always seem to have something to say about it. drives me nuts and has caused me so much anxiety in the past, but really, the only thing that is important is that you have a healthy baby.

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[Cassius2]

yeah my placenta took a good 45 minutes to come out and it was really hard work! i was shocked! i had the injection first birth and didnt even notice it really coming out...but the second time i had to do a lot of hard work to bring it down...

[HotI]

My placenta took about 4 hours! It had come away but didn't want to come out, and then went into cervical shock. The placenta was quite large, but don't think that was why it didn't want to come. We stayed in the pool awhile, then tried on land.

Ok, highlight here if you want to know- my little boy was 4.96 kg (10lb 15oz). He is long and not really chubby, everything is in proportion. My DD was 3.7kg at birth, so not a heavyweight. It will be interesting to see how he grows from here on.

I have a mini vent that i just have to get out so i can let it go. I had couple people visit yesterday, for me i thought it was quite a privilege for them to come so soon. The visit was lovely, they bought lunch, played with DD and didn't overstay. But then one of them put photos up on FB with DS's name, when i hadn't announced his name yet (it took us a day to decide) or put any photos up. And they weren't even nice photos. I just don't know why people think that that is ok, i didn't know that i had to specify do not put photos on-line of my newborn son... ok, that feels better.

[Jennifer13]

So our babies are either too big or too small! Lol I cook littlies too, Loulabelle - DD1 was 2.56kg (39 wks) and DD2 2.83kg (at three days past EDD). Neither had any issues due to size. Probably made the pg a bit more comfortable (I measured no more than 35 wks) but that's about it! We all know how many variables there are when it comes to birthing.

Hot1 - that's a fabulous size! I can't wait for the next time someone wants to tell how big babies can't possibly have natural births. You're a champion!

[Bella29]

I hear you about the fb status thing hotI. My dad announced the birth on fb the night of the birth, not long after we called to tell him. Thankfully he isn't friends with most of my friends and didn't tag me in the post. I think in his case he is just oblivious to fb etiquette. He is 60 after all and isn't really aware of stuff like that. But most of the rest of my family and friends wouldn't dream of doing that.

Hugs to you. It isn't ok babe. I would be quite pi**ed too

[Artechim]

HotI, congratulations! Sounds like a lovely birth That is rude of your friend. I have found out about a couple of births via people posting on wall's before the parents have a chance. So rude!
Nothing wrong with a big bub. Are either of you very tall? DD2 was 2 pounds heavier than the other two, now at 4.5 months she is exactly the same stats as her sister was at this age.

[Jennifer13]

Phooey to your friends and the FB posting, Hot1. That's poor form.

[HotI]

DD2 was 2 pounds heavier than the other two, now at 4.5 months she is exactly the same stats as her sister was at this age.

Thanks for that, i have been wondering how his growth will go from here. Guess we will just wait and see.

[Tegam]

Oh hoti. Your bubby boy sounds perfect. Better than my skin and bones children. Mine have been 6-8pounds but SUPER long. But DH and I are both very tall. But boy talk about ugly things till the boobie juice kicks in and fattens them up

Your birth sounds great. Wow at the time for the placenta. That's hard work. My placentas come out with the babies! Super quick. I just cant imagine you having to work like that for another few hours!!!! You are an amazing women.

Poo to your friends. I always stalk the Facebook page of friends having babies as there is always a fool that will post before the parents. Sad for you

Do we get to hear his name?

[e_p]

HotI what a great size!! Wow! Good on you for growing and naturally birthing a baby that is certainly bigger than the average

I hear you on the FB stuff - how upsetting My SIL (DH's sister) had a baby 2 weeks before us - her DH sms'd his brother when SIL was still in recovery from her emergency c-sec, the brother posted on FB, then DH's younger siblings saw the announcement and all posted FB status updates too...their little girl's arrival and name was posted on FB by 5 people (SIL's BIL, and her siblings aged 13, 15, 17, 28) before she'd even made it out of recovery. Her dad, DH & I and the other 3 siblings all found out about the birth via FB. I was furious on her behalf but also relieved that it wasn't us it happened to or I would have come down on DH's family like a tonne of bricks SIL didn't get to announce the arrival of her daughter to a single person!! Before C was born, DH spoke to his dad and said noone was to post on FB before we said it was ok to and reminded everyone again when we called to say C was here. They all behaved themselves thankfully. I'm sorry your friend didn't respect you and your new bub

[Jennifer13]

I SMSed and posted DD2's birth on FB myself a couple of hours after it happened - I was on such a high and so proud of myself that I wanted to shout it from the rooftops! I guess I wanted to show that HB had such a fabulous outcome for us. No one had a chance to steal my thunder. Mind you, it was still the middle of the night, so it would have been hard!

Our minister put DD2's birth in his newsletter! It's been a great opportunity to talk to everyone about it all and how well it went. It was a very spiritual birth too, so I get added interest. Hannah means "gift from God" and that is exactly how we feel about her.

[Cricket]

Well done on baking that little boy HotI! And birthing him quickly and naturally too! Absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about - shout it out and let everyone know that a big baby CAN be birthed normally! I've got a friend who believes she "had to have a c-section because her baby (8lb) was too big." Nothing to do with the fact that she was paralyzed, on her back, and not encouraged to take up any new positions during labour... She tried a VBAC with her second baby, but the scar began to split in very early labour, and she was bleeding badly. So sad, IMO. I think everyone needs to know that women's bodies work quite well! God made them that way, and if you let them do their job, they'll generally do it!

Got a bit of a chuckle out of a conversation with other friends - they're expecting baby #5, and considering a homebirth for the first time. Well, she is, anyways. He is a little nervous about the whole idea. We, and another homebirthing couple were having coffee together with them, and talking about the benefits of homebirth, and at the end of the conversation, the husband was like "well, I guess it would be nice not to have to pay for parking." Ah yes, one of the main benefits of having your baby at home. Cheap parking. We'll see what they end up deciding in the end.

I dreamed last night that my baby was born now, at 23 weeks. (I've been following a mom who planned a homebirth and did have her baby at 23 weeks, and lost the little boy. ) Woke up very thankful to still be pregnant. Put the aches and pains into new perspective again.

Hope everyone is doing well!

[Cassius2]

oh hoti, he sounds like a beautiful weight! you did a fabulous job baking him xx there was almost a kilo difference between DD1 and DD2. i remember being quite amazed at the difference in looks because of it. i have found that the girls evened up weight-wise within a few months, which was interesting

4 hours is quite the marathon! it was such an unknown for me as the first time wasnt even given a choice to go natural for the placenta.

cricket: oh wow! 23 weeks already! i feel that you only just announced!

[Jennifer13]

Cricket, so sad for that Mama. No wonder you're having bad dreams. Time is flying by for your pg (but then, mine seemed to whiz by too)! Third tri is just around the corner.

[meow]

*sOh hoti I'd be singing it from the rooftops! What a wonderful big bubba! With all the "big baby" fear going around, you're a freaking legend My babies we're on the bigger side (first was 4.3kg and the HB bubba was 4.7kg). They were both carrying a bit of chub and looked a bit puffed up at birth. They were also both very tall and topped the charts for height and head circumference so a lot of the weight was there. In my experience they both lost a bit more than the expected 10% and they also took longer than 2 weeks to reach their birth weights. They both had high palates and attachment issues so I struggled with feeding and low supply both times and I think that was a factor, but I also think they have more to play with so it seems natural they may lose a little more weight, and also not need to come up to birth weight as quickly.

Poo to your friends! Very poor form. I always check if anything is on a person's FB page before discussing any of their news that I'm privvy to.

Love the free parking cricket That's totally what sold me on a HB

[BellyBelly]

Speaking of FB I am sure a few of you have seen my status, but for those who haven't:

Sooo.. I find a GP in country Victoria who is lovely and willing to support my homebirth... but he speaks to the hospital (where he also works) and they refuse saying that they don't want reckless behaviour or a freebirth on their hands. Isn't that just what they have gone and promoted by saying no???? GP says I could just rock up and he is sure I wont be refused treatment, but, I wonder how I would be treated if that was the case. This is a joke. Time to put on my media hat and get this crap exposed. So much for supporting women to be safe.

Its turned into a huge discussion, feel free to add me (BellyBelly Kelly | Facebook) if you haven't seen it. But, *sigh*. I am going to do my thing though, not going to leave this and take it for what it is. I'm on this planet to make change, so its my time....

[Jennifer13]

Have you tried contacting the hospital yourself? I'm guessing it isn't everyone at the hospital that will be like this (well, I hope not anyway!).

My GP just wrote me a letter advising the hospital I wanted to book in in case of transfer. There was no need to contact the hospital herself. I just went in as any other pg woman would and went through the m/ws and admissions. I only needed to see an ob because of my previous c/s (and even she was lovely and quite supportive, unofficially!). I don't quite get why someone at the hospital is giving the GP a hard time and threatening to withhold treatment from you. I've heard of transferring HBers being given a hard time and their IM, but before the fact...??

I am aware that not all GPs are as easy to deal with as mine was. Partly from the fact that my m/w rushed to write down her name when I told her mine followed her letter outlining scripts, etc, exactly! My GP thinks most things that go wrong with birth are because of (male) drs. I can't wait to go and see her again and tell her how well it went without any!

[BellyBelly]

The GP is one of the consulting doctors there, so I think thats why. He needs their 'approval' or he could well lose his job there, as someone suggested. Perhaps?