Sounds like you've got a great support team, Lady Neon! I've never written out a proper birth plan either - just sort of talked things over with my midwife and made sure we were on the same page about the essentials.
An episiotomy is a cut made in your perineum as the baby is about to be born to allow him/her to come more quickly if he/she is in distress, or if the doctor thinks that you will tear really badly, and wants to try to minimize that by making a controlled cut instead. The second reason is generally considered a bad idea these days - usually tearing is better, but you can discuss the pros and cons with your midwife/ob.
My MWs said if we transferred they were better able to advocate for me if I had a list of birth preferences. Then they can point to it and say "see, she wants xyz" rather than it looking like they are trying to push their own agenda.
I'm not going to bother with planning music this time, i put so much time in last time and never used it, between contractions i wanted to chat.. and during i needed SILENCE! maybe if i had been labouring longer or over night... i don't know. If i want music this time i will just put ABC Dig on i think.
I hope i still have my birth plan from DD2.. Mine was also a list of my choices more than a 'plan' as much as anything it was a reminder sheet for DH should i not be able to talk for myself. Lady Neon, I took mine to my KEMH booking appointment last time and the OB had a read through and put a copy on my file so if i was to transfer it was already there.
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