Thank you so much ladies!
I feel so energized and whole now that I know this is what I want. Actually half the reason I want a homebirth is for the midwives and the after-care (of which I had zero of last time - nada, zilch, nothing at all!)
And yes Maya, I have saved a lot of effort on the DH front - he really surprised me by just saying "Okay. I know you do A LOT of research, you spend hours on that BellyBelly site, and I completely trust your decision".