I'm not trying to influence her decision in any way. The HB is all the way her decision. She won't have it any other way.
I just want her to feel more comfortable with the idea that she might not have her mw there. There is every chance she could get the money together & be able to do it, have her mw, but chances are it'll just be her & the family.
All I want to do is support her decision & be able to back her up if she's having doubts iykwim.