They didn't tell me, only that it was ok. Same first time round as well (also got checked around around 41 weeks).
Keeping an eye on things is a good idea, but sometimes all the extra information is just that, information. At the end of the day you have to go with what you feel is right. It is hard, we don't know what's going to happen. It's just really important to make decisions that you're comfortable with - you have to live with them after all.

If they're giving you statistics adn such like, you could ask where they came from and what research/evidence they're basing their recommendations on.

I know several people who have birthed at 42-43+ weeks with no issues (my mother included). It's just very unusual here as most women are made to induce.
There are risks. There always are. I do not mean to be flippant about it at all, but it's something we all have to face.

I don't know if any of this helps you make a decision - probably not - but it is your decision to make. I hope your baby takes the choice out of your hands very soon! Just by the by, have you been having sex and bouncing on fit balls and things like that?