Tell him that as it is your baby and your body and the fact that things are all going to plan you wont be induced until its medically appropriate!
And OMG because of your age like hell this doctor sounds like he is planning all his new mums to deliver when he wants so he can play golf or go on holidays !
im just going to echo what everyone else has said. ive never seen or heard of any reason why being 39 would mean you should be induced. ive heard of ladies 45+ going weeks over the due date. pregnancy is perfectly safe and normal up till 42 or even 43 weeks. just 40 weeks is the average. not a deadline!
with daily fetal monitoring, weekly scans to check amnio levels and blood flow/placenta condition your pregnancy can continue safely till you baby is finished growing and your body is ready. you CAN say no to anything you dont feel comfortable with, i didnt with my first birth, DH was soft, like you think your DH will be and i had a cascade of intervention and post birth complications and we both were not keen to go through it again the second time. My second birth i was supported, educated and confident with what i wanted and i had a great birth!! i loved it!!
be confident and educated .... and happy birthing!
Last edited by beckoes; May 2nd, 2012 at 10:20 PM.
FabFiona - it is a public hospital I am going to, and supposedly a teaching hospital so maybe it means they can get some 'teaching' and 'learning' done during my labour??? I will only be allowing very few people in there with me during the event. I havent done this before and the last thing I want is someone asking me stupid questions or staring at my bits. It wont really help with me trying to relax and use the calmbirth ideals!
oh....and I am the same as you with hairdressers...all I manage to get across is 'no layering!!'........
Beckoes - thats what I want to walk away with...i want to LOVE the experience which ever way it goes. We all want the ideal situation but it rarely happens in life, I just want to feel confident and calm and happy with the path it takes.
I finished work today so next week is 'birth plan' week. I just need some quiet time to gather my thoughts and to be able to focus on how I feel about everything and write it clearly so there is no mistake in interpretting my wishes.
With ds1 my Ob made the same comment - he wouldn't want to 'let me' go over my due date because of my age. I was 36! Dh and I both went "hmmm", and decided that we would NOT be doing that. It was just his standard approach, it didn't mean we had to agree. If there were other medical reasons that would be something else, but JUST because of age when everything was going swimmingly? Nuh-uh! We didn't have to argue as it turned out because ds rocked up some 5 days early.
With ds2 My (new) Ob didn't even mention inducing by due date or because of age - and I was then 38! So it really does vary from dr to dr.
With this next one I will probably have just turned 41, and I have no intention of doing such a thing either if it comes to that!
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