When I did try to drop feeds I tried to drop one at a time. This was a nightmare as DD got confused, sometimes I would offer a feed, sometimes not, so in her mind she didn't know what was going on. In the end, when I called for help I was told to just drop all feeds (bar the 11pm rollover) at once.
I agree, I dropped all feeds overnight because doing it once and not another time just frustrated and confused DD.

If you want to try offering the water at night (I just do it in case she's thirsty, I know I always need a drink in the night ) you could give it in a sippy cup or a bottle, whatever he drinks from at meal time. I use a sippy cup.

Do you think the pear could be giving him tummy pains and causing him to be un-settled? I've heard too much apple/pear can give bubs the runs and sore tummies? Just a though...

Good luck tonight and so sorry to hear DH is so sick, chemo is just awful, you're doing such a wonderful job.