I would hold off on the cows' milk, but then my first DS was allergic to it at first so I am probably on the conservative side. I agree that no milk at lunch would be fine if EBM isn't an option, or an alternative like rice milk would be ok too. I wouldn't recommend soy milk under 12 months either, and juice, even watered down is bad for them and shouldn't be introduced until at least 18 months (Jack is nearly 3 and still doesn't have it yet). But water at lunch instead of milk should be just fine, she is getting plenty of milk from those feeds she is having, so that would be my first choice.