house is open plan. I don't think gates would be big enough to block off the lounge, but a good idea. Our oven & stove are gas, so I am trying to teach them all that if they are on, no kids in the kitchen. She'll get that later
I just need to organise myself better. Kids are home today, so use them as much as possible, then mum should be here Wednesday. Right through the school hols too, I'll be needing that.
Only 3 - 4 weeks of this to go til work gets quiet for a month or 2, I'll manage. I think I'm better off waiting til I'm not so busy to do it. I think I have more time to sit every so often than deal with days of screaming!
This is a tricky one. It's probably less about the breastmilk and more about the time with you. A quick breastfeed allows her to reconnect with you and for her to have some time with mummy. One of the disadvantages from working at home is that little ones think that if you are there you should be spending all your time focusing on them!
I have found with my boys that 5 minutes with them can buy me an hour or more of time to get things done. So one idea might be to allow her one or two breastfeeds during the time that you are working but no more. Talk to her about how she can only have how ever many you agree on, and then you need to do your cooking. Perhaps even give her a card for each feed at the start of the day. She can swap each card for a feed but when they are gone there is no more until your work is done.
Otherwise, if you don't want to feed at all, perhaps you could relate it to where you are. When mummy is in the kitchen then you drink from a cup (or bottle etc), and there is no breastfeeding. At other times when mummy isn't in the kitchen it's ok. Or as mentioned above, the apron - when it's on no feeds. Or anything else such as when it's daylight etc, depending on how much feed free time you want.
It sounds like you really need some support and a housework fairy to come and help you too. If you find a housework fairy please let me know, I need one too Hopefully your mum will be a big help and allow you to relax for a bit.
I now have set times when i am ok to feed DD, and when she asks i will say "you can have a feed after your bath when you have your jammies on". she still asks, but it is easier to put it off (for me at this stage) if i can give her a time rather than jst say no, no until i give in (and then don't enjoy feeding her anyway).
we do after breakfast, after lunch (if we are home and she might sleep after), before bed.
Thanks. I really don't want to wean her, but I am struggling with her being so dependent on me. Especially now that its just me. No dad or nan to hand her to for a few minutes.
While mum's here I want to get out & meet people. But I don't know if DD can be without me at sleep times... I do know though, that mum has a heck of alot of patience & will pace for hours if need be.
I might start trying to say no during the day. Looking forward to being attacked all night
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Hopefully your mum will be a big help and allow you to relax for a bit.
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