i am bf-ing my two year old. i think of it as "feeding by request".

i'm sure it's very different when you are tandem feeding, i think you might get more responses if you altered the heading to TANDEM feeding, that's what your issue seems to be about to me.

you are fine with bf-ing, but it's the quantity, feeding two so frequently, that is wearing you down, seems to me (as an outsider).

i am also of the mind to let my DD self wean. Sometimes i wish it would happen sooner, other times i feel very content about where we are with this.

We feed - i really have to stop and think - cos i never count -

good night feed around 8pm
wake up in night feed around 1am
wake up early morning feed around 7am
morning feed around 10am
afternoon feed

and if she falls over, or is in pain, we use bf to help with that too.

she copes being in childcare, obviously not getting BF, but i feed her on dropoff and pickup. we are the slowest people to do dropoff and pickup! she screams if i don't feed her then. really panicked. i might stop her after 30 mins and she's not happy about it.

i agree with Maya, just when i think, "oh no, i haven't got time to bf you, we should be getting in the car right now" - the act of bf-ing her, FORCES me to calm down, destress etc.

but i'm not doing this with two kids, so i reall don't know what to tell you.

i really think you need support from tandem feeding mums.

i can empathise, but haven't had your experience, to really udnerestand.

i'm struggling with PND too (only reason bilbs is in CC), so i sympathise with that bit geniunely.