I think we need to wean but I am not ready.

[Charlotte91]

I'm not here to advise you what to do.
But I think that 19 months is a MASSIVE achievement. I only BF for a week, but expressed for 7 weeks while DD was in hospital.
I would have given anything to do a few months. You should be so proud of yourself for feeding for 19 amazing months.
You've given your DD the best start in life and you deserve some praise.
I completely understand why you want to wean and if I was high risk again (and if I was still bf-ing) I would wean.

Good luck with your decision.

[NaeNae]

Thanks Barb - we actually do not have sex during pregnancies because I am always terrified that something might trigger something - its a silly rational really I know it sounds silly but because we will never know what caused the early labour with Nikita, for my own sanity, we take no risks with anything. I know all the the logic, I have toyed with weaning several times in the past but pushed on. This time part of me is ready to have a little of me back ... its just the torn decision, I am the worst decision maker when it comes to the hard things. Dh has always been my back up but he cannot understand the desire to BF so cannot understand the struggle to stop.

I might just drop the night feed gradually reducing the snuggle time she pushes me away if there is no boobie anyway and I will reassess once we're down to one ... is having a little suck every other day still considered BF??

Thanks so much Barb, and thank you Charlotte x x x x

[onthefly]

Sounds like a good plan.
My understanding is that the oxytocin will not cause contractions till teh oxytocin receptors in your uterus are ready - ie, when you're primed for labour.
Breastfeeding is breastfeeding is breastfeeding I hope you find a way that works for you both

[Barb Glare]

Dear Nae Nae,

It's understandable that you would do anything to avoid having your baby early. I was more surprised at your doctor's response. You need to do whatever you think is right.