Yael, i'm interested in your opinion on something. I am Jewish, my parents are Reform and I grew up going to Cheder and to Synagogue on holidays etc. I chose not to have a Bat Mitzvah. I will always think of myself as being Jewish but more in a way of being part of a tribe (for want of a better word) of people then as a religion. As far as faith is concerened i'm not sure what I beleive but I will always think of myself as being Jewish - does that make sense?

What I mean is do you think that there is such a thing as a non-practising Jew? I want my children to go to Cheder and I would love for them to beleive in God but I want them to make their own decisions - at the moment if DS asks me about God I tell him that if he beleives in God then yes, God is real. He hasn't asked me what I think and I hope he doesn't, at least till I know what I think.

I'm not really sure what i'm asking you here, sorry, it's a bit garbled. I guess it has been weighing on my mind recently.