Now I'm scared about long day care!!

[~Kaz~]

Thanks for your responses.

It turns out it was probably totally random cause last night he went down at 9pm (later than usual cause of a late arvo nap), fed at 12:30am and then slept through til 7am He's almost never missed the middle of the night feed before so I give up trying to work out what he's up to

You don't really know exactly what it's going to be like until you're actually there doing it.

Hmmmmm yes but Rachel, I want to know now!!! I do agree that he could have picked up on our feelings - DP was probably a bit more stressed without boobies in the house and I was a bit upset when I got back and he hadn't called cause I was literally 5 mins up the road and could have come home to feed and then gone back. I wasn't upset with DS but felt bad for DP that he'd had a rough night so I could have a good night so that could have been enough.

Great advice about daycare too. We do plan to put him in a week or two early (at least, may not have a choice to secure the days I want) and I'll be hanging around as much as he needs in those weeks before I go back to work.

[Epacris]

Hehehe... wow, what a lovely night's sleep (but did you wake up anyway, I always do ). Do give your DS some time to settle in to daycare. It took my DS a full 6 weeks! In fact I had given up hope that he was ever going to settle, I gave notice that we were withdrawing him, DH organised long service leave and was going to be a PT-SAHD. Then over the next two weeks (which was the time that we had to give notice) he learnt to walk and was a completely different child. Luckily his place didn't get filled so we could continue on, and we've developed a truly wonderful relationship with our FDC lady. Lucky us! Hope all goes well for you too.

[Epacris]

Hey Kaz, I've been thinking about you and I've got more advice (are you sick of me yet ). You said you've got no near by family/support. You need to talk to your DH (now, I suggest) about what you're going to do when your DS gets sick, because it will happen. Who is going to take time off work to look after him. I personally don't think it should always default to the mother but if you're still BFing then I can understand that you would want to be with your DS when he's sick.

It's great that you're still BFing and if you can get him through his first winter in daycare still being BF it will be even better! DS's first winter in daycare and not being BF was hell for us. He was constantly sick!!! DD's first winter in daycare she was still being BF and she only got sick a couple of times. I'm not saying that BFing will stop your DS getting sick but it's such magic stuff, it would have to help I reckon!