Sorry it's taken me so long to get back to this thread - haven't had time to sit down and type out a decent reply. How's it going at the moment?

Here's some of the tips from The NCSS for toddlers and preschoolers - will post in more detail later.

* Use the Pantley Gentle Removal Plan to help break the sucking-to-sleep habit (make sure your child is done 'eating' - when she is not sucking and swallowing, just pacifying - before you gently remove the nipple from her mouth)

* Create a new Bedtime Routine - Finish the bedtime routine with something that relaxes your child eg. soft music, massage, etc. Avoid having your child falling asleep on the breast during the first half of the night - helps to break that sucking to sleep sensation, hopefully leading to less likely to wake up for the breast when they stir during the night.

*The Storyteling Ritual - Breastfeed earling in the evening, then have your child lie next to you in the bed in the dark and tell a story. The key to this is to have your child lie in bed without nursing.

*Set Time Perimeters - Set a chunk of time during the night when 'boobie sleeps' - eg. from midnight to 6am. This is the option that I've been using, but boobie sleeps here from 7pm til 5am ( I've been really slack with this lately though - consistency is the key with this option).

*Use light and dark as nursing cues - Day time boobie is available, night time boobie sleeps - fairly self-explanatory.

*Adding motivation - Have a box of 20 or 30 small toys, treats, etc. individually wrapped. When your toddler goes for the whole night (or whatever you guys set for your family) without boob, she gets to pick a lucky dip out of the box.

I found my biggest problem was that my daughter had decided her 'lovey' was my boobs!!!! Both of them!! Pantley talks about this in her book, though suggests that it's usually boob and teddy/blankie/mum's hair/necklace, etc. My darling decided it's one boob in the mouth - other boob is for playing with So we're working on replacing that with another lovey - still working on that one.

BBL with more info