All I can say is that after pg, I just realized what a good bra is worth

I will never have perky boobs again (well, not without some surgon's help) but wearing the right bra, give's you the LOOK of perky boobs

Get yourself messured by a profesional and buy yourself some nice lacy bra's in the right size.

BTW, you are not selfish. Being aware of how you look is good, it's right.