Should see me trying to do our new found fitness thing - pilates with baby on boob...lmao! Would love for someone else to see it!! My friend & her 16 month old DS, me & Jesse...boobs everywhere!!
Jesse's 19 months. Occasionally sleeps through, mostly doesn't, lol. I roll over give him boo & he sleeps. Perfect excuse, too tired & lazy to listen to him scream for hours on end without it. Noone else would be able to sleep in the house either!
He's recently stopped going to sleep on it. Only the last 2 - 3 days, so will probably start again. Mostly doesn't wake during the night for it, til just on daylight (I'm guessing 5 - 6), but thats only been the last few days too.
Its so easy here. Out of about 8 of my friends, only one came home from hospital & switched to FF. 2 have babies younger than 6 months bfing, 2 fed till 16 & 18 months & only stopped due to one owning a business & the other about to have another baby.
3 of us are feeding over 1 year olds. 5 or 6 of us feeding all up. Its just normal with us..everyday thing you know. Would think a FF mum would feel extremely uncomfortable & left out (not saying we'd make them feel like that iykwim).
Anyway, a month ago I went back home. Back to where I was a 'they don't need it past one' person. Felt a bit like a hypocrite, but not one person said a thing. I fed him to sleep at the pub at home & noone said a word. MIL used to always complain about a friend who's DD was 14 months & still BFing, but was fine with me doing it. (This woman did other odd things though)
Had a mate of DH's ask when I'd run out of milk, so got to educate a bit lol, told him you don't run out as long as you feed. He spun out!
She'll probably be a tad distracted with all the new exciting people around & won't feed so much anyway. Don't let them worry you. The rolled eyes are pretty easy to ignore.
IME noone has the balls to actually have a go at you for it. (I feel very lucky about this though! Never had a negative comment really.)
Your doing the best for Jazz. She's the one you have to raise & do the best for, not them. She's your responsibility, not how comfortable they are with you feeding her.
And yes, you are doing perfect! You are doing exactly what is right for you & your family
I'm another of those who (when pg) thought I would certainly stop when DD could walk and talk. Needless to say, she can and I haven't. So it's mothers like you who break down that expectation and normalise bfing for everyone else. If they ask, tell them the things you've said here. You've got a very articulate way of explaining all the benefits in bfing Jazz, so be confident and let them know. It's not their fault they don't understand, our whole society is not geared around bfing the way it should be.
I was about to ask a similar question, so slight hijack - continuing of discussion here.
DS is nearly 10months and demand/request feeds. We have tried getting him to sleep through the night without needing feeds. Typically he will wake 1 -3 times a night. We can get him to go back to sleep without a feed some wakes - and he has gone through some whole nights without any feeds, but other nights he just wont settle back to sleep properly unless we give him some milk. We have tried settling him, but he will just grizzle on and off for hours some nights until we give him milk.
I suppose we just keep doing what we are doing, but its hard to know when he actually is thirsty and when he is just needing to go back to sleep. I guess Im hoping someone can offer advise about how to deal with the nights? I was wondering if we should keep a bottle of water by his bed so if he dosent settle back to sleep after a short while then we just give him some water?, as Im sure its thirst and not hunger during the night at his age.
Salsa, at 10 mths I'd be reluctant to offer water to stop the night time feeds. He may still need those feeds for nutrition, as well as comfort. He's still just a little baby, hun. If you would like to cut back the night time feeds there are settling strategies you can try, but if he's genuinely hungry/thirsty I'd suggest it might just cause you more frustration!
If you can possibly ride it out, this will pass soon enough.
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Thanks everyone, good to know we aren't doing anything unusual
lol, told him you don't run out as long as you feed. He spun out!
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