We're starting to bang our head against a wall here and am looking for some help.
DD has become an incredibly fussy eater. She has minor food allergies (apples and grapes give her a mild rash) but we're finding it incredibly hard to introduce new foods to her, or to convince her to eat old favourites.
Right now, she'll eat chicken nuggets, toast, cheese sticks (but no other form of solid cheese, cheese spread is okay), yoghurt, bananas, rice cakes, avocado (if it is spread on the rice cake), bolognaise sauce, plain rice, cous cous, sausages, cruskits, weet bix, fish fingers and the odd hot chip. We also give her fruit and yoghurt smoothies, with plain yoghurt and banana and we sneak maybe a mango in there too. If we have spaghetti or lasagne, she'll eat the bolognaise sauce and leave the pasta.
In the past she's eaten pumpkin, potatoes, kiwi fruit, but right now she's gone hit and miss with those too. Tonight we're having roast chicken with pumpkin and potatoes and I've got my fingers crossed.
I just don't know what to do. She doesn't have sweet things like chocolate or biscuits very often - like once a week to once a fortnight - we don't give her juice, but she does drink water and cow's milk. I've gotten to the point that when she does eat something outside her "staples", I burst into tears. I don't know if it's a teeth issue, her 2yo molars have been niggling, but nothing major, and she doesn't care if we give her nothing else than the food in front of her. She'll just sit there and wait it out until we take her from her high chair, and then she goes on her merry way. She is growing, but I'm just worried about the lack of vegies and fruit from her diet. We've tried pressing things against her firmly closed mouth and she cracks it (and rightly so!), but she'll then lick her lips and eat whatever it was. But even this has failed lately and I hate doing it.
So any tips, advice on foods that have worked for your toddler, please throw them my way! Thank you xoxo
Oh kids and food can be sooo stressful! I was once told, that it is up to us to offer healthy foods, and up to them to eat it. If they decide not to eat it, atleast it has been offered, iykwim.
I'm a huge fan of grating vegetables. Hiding them in things. I know that sounds horrible! But I'm POSITIVE I'm not the only one doing it!
For example - In my bolognaise sauce, I grate zuchini, carrot, sweet potato, pumpkin; finely chop onion, brocoli and cauliflower, I also add baby spinach - ANYTHING really that I have in the fridge. My DD doesn't even know its there, and gobbles it up! hehe!
Her theory is also - yes you hide the food, BUT ALSO you put vegies on the side aswell. You can't just let them go on life thinking vegies aren't necessary. Im having troubles finding the words to describe my thinking... ahh! Sorry! But its apparently REALLY good! On my wish list!
Have a look at the thread "Is this just a toddler phase? He used to eat so well"...we've been discussing exactly this there and there's already some ideas down.
It can be SO frustrating! At this stage my thinking is that, I don't mind so much what DD gets into her, as long as she eats something. I think they pick up on our anxiety too....I know that if I feel uptight and stressed when I offer her food that she probably won't eat, she won't eat it. As I said in the other thread...the other day I offered a piece of toast and feigned disinterest...and she eventually ate it. It was 2 hours later, but she ate.
Taking her to the store to pick out her own fruit has been working too.
My DD got her 2yo molars very early and is hitting this fussy eating stage earlier than 2...so it's probably just the normal toddler phase that we all get eventually, rather than teeth so much.
Ah hun, food can be hard work at that age So many kids seem to live on fresh air at that age - your DD seems to be doing better than that so I'd say you're doing well (even if it doesn't feel like it right now).
As a mum who had BTDT (luckily just once, my other DS has always loved food), I know how hard it is. However if I had my time again I would do things very differently. I think one of the big keys is to not care. I mean care obviously, but try and be really relaxed about it and not let on that her eating is important to you. The other thing I would do differently is to offer a food, preferably the same food that the family is eating, and if it's not eaten don't offer anything else. Kids do hold out for the food they know and love and in our well meaning desire to get them to eat, we discourage them from trying new things because we always offer something they like as a fallback. I had to stop doing that to get DS1 to try anything new - and at that stage he was eating just 6 things. I really made a mess of his early eating months sadly, and he still is not as good an eater as his brother Kids won't starve themselves - when she's hungry and needs food, she'll eat what's in front of her.
One other thing that can be a problem at that age is too much milk. You don't mention how much she has, but the recommendation is no more than 3 cups a day, I'd say even less is better with a fussy eater because it does fill them up and stop them needing the food to feel full. And after 12 months the nutrition from food is the most important.
It sounds like you are doing great things - she eats fruit and meat which are important and you are probably getting some vegies in there in the pasta sauces etc. No juice and few sweet things is great too. Hang in there, the rest will improve hun.
Welcome to your new life. This is pretty much how kids operate, don't buy into it. This is your lot for the next 20 years or so. You can imagine that with 4 kids I have one happy person at every meal I cook and 3 unhappy people - and to add an extra layer of complication - what they *loved* last week, they now *hate* - and I should know that.
It sounds like she actually has a pretty good and varied diet. Remember, most of the world's population don't have the smorgasbord we have available to us. Give her what you are eating - but don't take it personally if she tells you it's not to her taste. Now is a time to make some rules. For us it was eat what we eat - or the only alternative is fruit.
Sometimes it's a power play - how cool - the power to make mum cry. Just what every 2 year old craves. Put on your hard hat and buckle up for the ride.
My 2 year old used to eat anything and everything. She was a great eater. Then she got fussy. She used to love pasta, now i get a screaming fit if I try and feed it to her. She loves white rice, but refuses point blank to eat it if it has a sauce on it. She does like her veggies and fruit, but is not in love with meat, unless it is a chicken nugget and then it is debateable whether it is actually meat.
I am basically lazy and refuse to cook 2 different meals every night unless we are having a curry or something really spicy, otherwise she gets what we get and if she refuses to eat it, then she is the one who is missing out. If she refuses to eat it, there is nothing else for dinner, not even fruit. Yup, at least twice a week she goes to bed not having eaten anything and it doesn't seem to bother her in the slightest. I figure if she is energetic and growing then she is getting enough.
I could let it bother me, and yes sometimes it really does, but I figure she will grow out of it.
It's so comnplicated sometimes just rememering what they will and won't eat!
Yes:
All fruit
Most Veg
Chilli Laksa (???)
Chickpeas
Beans (plain tinned or baked beans)
Quorn
Dinosaur shaped pure breastmeat tempura chicken nuggets. Normal nuggets? Nup. (But I have stopped buying them so she'll have to live)
Soymilk
Weetbix
Sometimes:
Bread (but mostly no)
Pasta (only at daycare on Spag Bol day)
Yoghurt. Usually just body paints with it.
Refuses:
Rice
Cheese
Meat in any shape or form except for the breastmeat Dino Nuggets. Meat from an actual chicken breast? Pfft. No chance.
Pasta other than daycare
Nuts
Chocolate
Cereal that's not Weetbix.
All-time saviours for us:
Frozen Blueberries
Cold Grapes
Small Dice Frozen Veg (usually mixed with Baked Beans, but she seems to eat them mixed with any sauce/flavouring)
...all of which are nice and toddler sized!
Share with us what your fussy toddler's will and will not eat and we can come up with some ideas together...then we've got them all online for inspiration. Writing down ideas of what she might have works for me...if I leave it in my brain it just gets messy and jumbled!
Tellytubby - I'm face palming right now. Can't believe I didn't think to hide different vegies in her bolognaise sauce!! Thank you!
Angelaartstudent - I'll be joining you in that thread for sure!! Thanks hun.
MantaRay - DD has milk with her breakfast and then sometimes with dinner (depending on if she drank her breakfast one) with some before bed. Too much? I do generally cook for her what we're eating, unless we're having something like curry, then she'll have something different. Thanks for your advice.
ETA - Barb you were too quick for me! Thank you for your advice.
21 month old and food :( - advice wanted
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So many kids seem to live on fresh air at that age - your DD seems to be doing better than that so I'd say you're doing well (even if it doesn't feel like it right now). 
Kids won't starve themselves - when she's hungry and needs food, she'll eat what's in front of her. 
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