There is no need to delay the introduction of dairy. Its important in a growing body which IMO far out weighs the "i cant bring myself to give her dairy". At the end of the day, its not only how u feel, but what she needs.
im sorry holly but i dont agree that she needs cows milk at 9 months!
im concerned about our obsession with our kids having copious amounts of another animals breastmilk! so my concern far out weighs the 'its important in a growing body'.
FWIW i have started giving her some on her cereal but at this point in her life to me its not an essential part of her diet.