With DS1 at about the same age I had a huge "battle" with him one dinner time. It lasted about an hour - he didn't want to eat his lasagna (rafferty's too). I had Dad coaching me through trying to put the food into his mouth and eventually I won. Now he eats everything I give him, I don't give him extra food etc. With DS2 I give him a plate of what we're having, and yogurt after that I feed him (he feeds himself with his hands/fork the mains). DS1 definately less messy than DS2! But I think both approaches work - is she still on milk? (booby or cows')? If so then that's pretty much a complete meal anyhows.