Tricky! My DS isn't a consistent eater but I've found changing the finger foods I'm giving him seems to keep him a bit interested. Cobs of corn, slices of rockmelon, pieces of cooked chicken, steak, toast, plain bread sticks (enjoys crunching those), grilled cheese on toast, halved cherry tomatoes, thick slices of cucumber, steamed broccoli, carrot and pumpkin... as well as spooning baby yoghurts and trying the organic range of baby foods. Plus I just keep giving him bits off my plate to try. He's still getting what he needs from breastfeeding and weight's good but I also worry about what happens when he starts to wean.
I don't know if any of that helps at all. I struggle with patience. It takes so long sometimes for DS to eat anything substantial. We haven't had the gagging thing really to deal with but I did use those mesh food holders for grapes and banana and steamed vegetables right at the start because I was worried about DS choking. Have you tried one of those? Good luck!! Hope someone comes up with some good ideas for you!
That's a tough one hun I think you are going to be needing a lot of patience for a while
I don't really have any answers for you, but maybe you could try different textures and things and see if that interest him. And it might be like taste, that he might need to be offered the same thing many times before he'll play with it. Mashed potato was a favourite one for my boys - they loved to squish it in their hands and through their fingers.
I think just keep trying things until something works - but keep it fun. If he starts to get upset then stop, and wait before trying something else. I hope you have some success soon.
Keep offering, hun, but you're right that you shouldn't stress about it. It might take him a while to get used to or feel comfortable with the different textures he's feeling in his hands. How is he with other sensory things? Make sure that you seem happy about touching the food and don't rush in to clean him up anytime he does get a little messy. Is he happy to play in the dirt outside? What about finger painting? I would look to encourage sensory play with other things, not just food, so he knows that it's good to feel things that are different. He will naturally experiment once he is more comfortable.
As long as he sees from your example that you are happy to get messy and see him get messy he'll soon get the idea that there's nothing to be worried about. Some kids (and adults) do have more issues with different textures than others. But it doesn't mean he can't get to the point where he's comfortable enough to be more adventurous with food.
Last edited by Jennifer13; October 13th, 2009 at 10:14 AM.
Have you tried things like watermelon or other juicy fruits in a mesh bag feeder? He can then suck them and get the taste but no swollowing... DS liked that concept a lot... Took a bit to get him interested in the mesh bag and sucking, but using things like pear and watermelon were good... I also used two fruits from a can, as they have a lot of juice (i know there is sugar) but it helped get him interested and then i switched out to real fruit...
It maybe worth trying to introduce the food at a different time and place - say on a towel out in the back yard rather than in the highchair. Also perhaps a small amount of food at a time just left out to discover. DD here loves the frozen vege mix (cooked of course) and picking out the different veges. She seems to make less mess as they are small and require some precision to 'catch'. Sucking pasta sauce off pasta is another fav as is flicking fried rice EVERYWHERE!
Messy as it is DD also loves eating in the pram - arrowroot bikkies all over the place. FWIW DH is a neat freak and is not allowed to wipe and spoon feed as DD1 became obsessive about being clean between mouthfuls.
Belfie - I would be stressed about gagging etc too but you are doing a great job! Let us know how you go. x
I don't know if its much help but my DS#1 was really slow to feed himslef. At the age of one he was put in a playpen with a chocolate cake and his Belly Buddy babies and just stood there while the other babies helped themself to the cake. He was ahppy to eat it if I fed him but refused to feed himself. He wouldn't even bit a sandwitch - we had to break bits off for him and pop it in his mouth like a baby bird.
Like your baby he has a sensitve gag reflex so I don't know if that is part of the issue, but he now happily feeds himself (he's now three). So you are not alone, at least, in having a child who won't feed themself
hey everyone,
thanks so much for the replies & ideas!
Roryrory - I appreciate knowing there's others out there! I was so keen to do BLS, and never thought I'd run into these kind of issues. It's so frustrating when everyone else's kids seem to be just happily hoeing into everything! I do feel like a lot of DS's fear has come from that gag reflex, and as for feeding after having a cold, well he just refused solids for 5 days, until I realised and went back to purees. We think he's always had a tendency to be a snuffly mouth-breather which has been tied in with this - kinda "what are you doing mummy, I'm not gonna put food in there, I breath through it!" He seems to be growing out of the mouth-breathing/snuffliness but I think it's left an impact.
Mak - I like the idea of food out to discover. We've tried different places/times/company/food, but not just finding it.
Rufalina - have tried the mesh feeder a bit, he tried it but wasn't interested for long, I shall try it again, good suggestion.
Jennifer13 - I don't THINK he's too bad with other sensory things, he's a very cruisey happy fellow in all other respects, little bothers him. But, we did have an ah-ha moment after I wrote this and did some research (think I'd had my head in the sand for a bit ). Realised that we were being too tidy & neat, and then I read your response and thought yup, for sure. I'm trying not to beat myself up about it (works for the most part) but we've gone to messy town big time and is definitely helping. I've picked up a smock for him... and trying to really play with food during meal times, suction bowl on the highchair tray, spoon for him & me... and the other day we played drop the peas off the spoon from height (he's not keen on eating peas so they were all leftover)... and he loved it! Already he's putting his hands in the food more, sticking the sppon in the bowl and just interacting with his food much more happily! He still won't put any of the food to his mouth himself, but I know i can't focus on that, I just need to help him explore it all in a fun way.
At this stage I'm gonna try encouraging him to play with his food (anything he eats, he can play with) - and with textures each meal we go easy-harder-easy again and then he can play with those textures too. I'm gonna hold off finger foods as a separate thing, and see how he goes with the little things in the harder foods (peas & cubes of carrot etc). Then I might see if I can start just putting some finger foods on the tray as well for him to explore. And if we happen to eat some finger foods and he wants them, well that'd be fine too. It's actually now easier to eat with him, because he's tending to eat a little slower. I was finding it was hard to role model eating because he'd get very antsy if you didn't feed him quickly enough - so I couldn't feed him and me simultaneously.
Thanks so much for all the suggestions, it's really helped - and I'm feeling SO much more positive particularly since every meal since posting has been great! So that helps me to help him.
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I think you are going to be needing a lot of patience for a while 
). Realised that we were being too tidy & neat, and then I read your response and thought yup, for sure. I'm trying not to beat myself up about it (works for the most part) but we've gone to messy town big time and is definitely helping. I've picked up a smock for him... and trying to really play with food during meal times, suction bowl on the highchair tray, spoon for him & me... and the other day we played drop the peas off the spoon from height (he's not keen on eating peas so they were all leftover)... and he loved it! Already he's putting his hands in the food more, sticking the sppon in the bowl and just interacting with his food much more happily! He still won't put any of the food to his mouth himself, but I know i can't focus on that, I just need to help him explore it all in a fun way.
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