Hi Kimmi.
I'm not a Muslim (and apologise if I use incorrect terminology) but regarding to you last question. In my area a group of Muslim students (I think it's a youth group) are doing a lot to actively encourage non Muslims to have a better understanding of their faith and way of life. They organise cultural events, open days at the mosque and there was a community meal to break fast last year.
If you like i could give you someni fo, I'm sure there are activities for both women and men.