When we told MIL (dh's mum) I was pregnant, the first thing she said was "what do you want to do?" meaning do we want to keep it. She came from a strict catholic family and had her first when she was in her 30's, as well as her sisters (late 30s). They all had problems with concieving and her sisters ended up having to use IVF. She never asked if the pregnancy was planned, and has always just assumed it was an accident. We dont think we need to explain to her that it was planned, really its nobodys business but ours. If they had of asked, we would happily tell them, but none of dhs family did. My family however were over the moon and just knew he was planned. It's so strange how different backgrounds assume different things. I come from a middle working class family, Dh more an academic traditional background.

When we were trying, i went to get a hpt from the pharmacy, and i got strange looks from the people who saw me with it. Dh looks much older than me (even though im older than him :-P), so i asked him to pick a couple more up for me. And he didnt have any problems at all, the lady even explained how it works, best time to do it, and recommended certain brands to him.

When we went to my Gyno for my first appointment after i recieved a +hpt, after the official pg test (peeing into a cup), i walked into to Obs office and she said "well, it was positive", with a straight face. It was so strange, she was waiting for our reaction, and when she saw happy faces, then she was like "oh, congratulations". I suppose they need to act like this with everyone though.

Anyway, i suppose this is a topic that will be here forever. But its really nice to know that there are people out there in the same boat.