Just told my parents....

[Early Kids]

Darl, I'm sorry your mum reacted the way she did, I really hope that once she gets over the initial shock that she will be excited as you are.

My dad was excited when I told him I was pg with Brendan, but reacted less excited this time. But he's very reserved and believes in the whole marriage before babies thing Although I was born out of wedlock! Anyhoo he will come round soon.... I know he will.

[Kailani]

Congrats on your pregnancy!

I'm sorry that your Mum reacted like that! When I told my family, there was no "congratulations", it was more just shock and disbelief and then..."omg what about uni" I think you're doing a great job and all I can say is just keep doing what you're doing, you're in a good place atm and I agree 20 is a good age to have a baby! My midwife told me that I was at a great age to have a baby and that made me feel so good as most of the comments I get are "Oh I didn't know you were married" and "How old are you?"

I think your parents will definitely come around once your bubba arrives and if not, they are missing out

[Jewel]

Firstly, big huge congratulations on your pg! That's so exciting.

I'm sorry your parents are like that.
I really hope after they have time to let it sink in that they'll want to be involved or at least be happy for you.

I'm sorry I don't have any tips or anything to help.
I reckon when you see them and they're still doing the negativity thing, just show them how happy you really are and try not to let it get you down.


I hope the rest of your pg goes fantastically!!

[ss_storm]

Thanks everyone Guess I will just have to wait and see if they get over it...lol At least they are 6 hours drive away, so it's not like we have to see them all that often.
And in a strange way, I think it will make me a better parent too, I kind of know what not to do! I understand it must be a shock for them, but having kids is sort of the next logical step, I know I would much rather be a younger grandparent if I was in their shoes (not that they are even old, but it's not like they are going to be 70 or 80 and being unable to play with them...). I guess the next 7 months will tell!

Thanks again for all your lovely words, it really does make a difference when you know that others have also experienced what you have, and that there is lots of support out there (even if it doesn't always come in parental form! Lol).

[ladybird11]

Hun, you'll probably find that no matter how old you are - you'll get the same reactions from your parents no matter what the topic is...! It's probably just their personality.

DP is now 37 and his mother still (apparently) knows whats best for him..whereas my parents are more "right, so you're moving house - what can we do to help - do you need any boxes" etc...."right, DD needs a swing - i'll make one"....

Unfortunately you can't pick and choose 'em eh???

Show your abilities to be a wonderful mother and make them eat their words....(Remind them that there are plenty of pathetic 30yr old mothers out there too - I'm a cop, I've seen it first hand! Raising kids in conditions I wouldn't let my dogs live amongst!)...