My friend in Poland sent me this that some girl sent into a magazine because she'd been getting stares and whispers in London with her baby. Thought I'd share it in here.. plese feel free to move if I got it all wrong... the girl is 23 but looks about 16 (apparently). Enjoy. And I mean no offense to anyone. This isall in good fun.
1. The jokes about 'your little brother/sister is so cute' are wearing a little thin. It's our baby, you know it's ours too because we keep saying 'you just spew on mummy, how cute'.
2. The joke 'well, it'll be a few years before you can legally sign any documents for him/her won't it?' is wearing a little thin. We get it, okay. HA HA.
3. The pointing at the sticker on the escalator 'children must be accompanied by an adult' is wearing a little thin. As is the look you give when pointing.
4. No, you're right, we can't buy alcohol. We don't intend to. Why are you bragging that you can? Do you have a problem? Here's AA's number.
5. The joke that we will we be confused for students when our child starts primary school is wearing very thin. At least when we accompany our student to read for the elderly, we won't be left behind. Ouch.
6. And finally... at the bake sale asking us if we had supervision when we used the oven will most probably prompt a punch in nose...
I'm another one that is 26 but looks 17. When I had DD I was 20 and looked 15.
I'm forever getting told I don't look old enough to have a 5 year old daughter, but the other day I was completely shocked when talking to a blind man who told me i dont SOUND old enough to have a 5 year old daughter!!!!
The funny thing is that I have hardly changed in the last 7 years in looks, size anything, yet my DD is 5 but is always mistaken for 6 or 7 cause she is so tall which makes it even funnier to see people reactions to us! I look 17 and she looks 6 or 7!
We all need a good laugh and i'm sure there are similar stories that older mums tell bout being called grandma.
Most people c my DD with her gran n think that it's her bub to which mum replies that no she had her kids not long after she got married and so did we. one of the mums in our playgroup is only 5 years younger than my mum but we don't treat her any differently. thankfully I do look slightly older than 21 but I do often notice people looking at my left hand because I do still look younger that the 'normal' age to have kids.
BTW i have asked about the possibilty of having private discussion group for the different age groups as I always feel uncomfortable speaking my mind in the public areas and I'm sure I'm not the only one.
im 21 with 9 mth old rhylie, ppl looked down apon us her going threw with our pregnancy but have since seen we are coping fine with a very assertive little man, with a few problems in the first few mths, now we are going to be married in 9mths, so there u go it doesnt matter about r age, we are doing great
I also have the young gene but didn't start my family until 27 so looked 20. My mum, even though heavily pregnant with me and 22, was told she couldn't enter the pub because she didn't have any id and people used to stare at and judge her. She's had her own back now though, people saying isn't your baby beautiful when she had my DD with her and being able to say no this is my granddaughter, She's 60 now but only looks 50.
I was 28 when I had my girls and one day later in my pregnancy I was in the chemist and the girl serving me told me I looked beautiful and dressed lovely for a young mum to be. I was quite taken aback and asked her how old she thought I was and she said "oh about 20" well was'nt she shocked when I told her I was'nt so young after all.I do look younger than my years most of my family do. Iwould often get funny looks from people for that same reason and also because I was carrying twins and had a huge belly
hi everyone well im 30 and only look as though im about 17 ans i had my first bub when i was only 16 so then i prob looked like iwas only about 13 lol,but now i have married a much older man who is 14 yrs older than me so when we walk down town or go anywere we always seem to get the weirdest looks and it can sometimes make us both feel strange as the impression we get is that im holding my dads hand and people have askes us before if im his daughter oh wow but now we just dont let i bother us as we love each other so very much so i dont care what they think lol thanks for listening
I look young, but even knowing my age people tell me I'm young (or make loud comments to friends) or seem surprised I'm married and have been for years pre-DS. I'm 26, that's a great age for a baby! Just cos you're in your 40s and have a baby doesn't make me a worse parent - different, yes, but there's no value judgement on different!
Actually, I have issue with UK law that having a baby and going to war is legal when alcohol, marriage without parental consent and voting is illegal - but that's just me. I would certainly lower the voting age!
Im 21 and my Fiance is 35 . Im 23 Wks Preg Due Xmas Day . I Am yet to Tell my Parents that im Pregnant and yes i know im leaving it alittle late . But my partner already has 4 children that we see on a part time basis and my family refuse to have anything to do with . I got pregnant as a young teenager and my parents talked me in to ( threatened ) an abortion .
Its Hard , when all the books and doctors and newmum information says accept help and advice from family - i know there wont be any for me . But we are very excitied to be welcoming this little bundel of joy in to the world . If theres Any Younger mothers in Tasmanaia on here i would be intrested in chatting .
Im not in tas but luv the place n luv 2 chat as do most of us on forums! I am 21 have 2 gorgeous girls n a luving hubby, also 21. Wen i got married 2 1/2 year ago ppl were saying we would neva last more than 6 mnths but they didn't understand that maturity is a state of mind not a thing that comes necessarily with age. thankfully my parents were young wen they got married n had kids so were understanding. My main thing to get past every1 who bags younger mums is they usually dont know u as well as they think they do n that can even b family. It may be hard 2 tell ur parents th@ it's ur decision 2 have the baby n they will always b related 2 it but u never no, they mite give u a very surprising good reaction. they do! If only u could choose ur family hey!
Oh shazd i loved this!
As i lived-in with my aunty for six months at the end/start 05/06, who had a 3MO that i primarily cared for, i've had those all too disapproving stares and this gave me a giggle. I'm well aware i'm still going to cop them in six months time, but i can't wait for a day i'm out with mum's twins and look like i have three of them just so i can tell people to go an stick it where the sun don't shine.
I'm happy, does anything else matter?!?>!
It makes me so angry, how some people can assume incompetence from young parents, when me at 20, has part-studied and worked in childcare, looked after all the babies siblings and cousins and third cousins etc etc, and my 33 year old aunty had her first baby after always hating kids, and that was OK?
It's really just something to giggle and scowl about.
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Haha good stuff nice to see her biting back. Luckily (sort of) I look my age and speak older although my typing sounds young a lot of the time (slightly dyslexic) most people think I look 20, but guess I'm around 25, and have done since I was 13 so I haven't changed much (face wise). I get people assume Ryans an accident and that we are renting and struggling when although we have to be careful with money we are in credit with everything and have no debts other than the mortgage.
I don't think anyone can judge when someone is ready to have kids. I have met 13year olds who spoke and acted more maturely than some 25year olds, each individual is different and all that matters is that they love their kids with all their hearts and do what's best for bubs (whatever that entails )
I'm constantly being told i dont look my age, i'm 23 and still get asked for ID when buying alcohol/Cigarettes for DP, well i know they are going to ask so as i'm asking for what i want i put my ID on the counter. I've been told i look as young as 16.
But i once went to the chemist to get some cold/flu tablets and with the new laws they have to record who they sell to and you have to be 18+ to purchase them (i had no prior knowledge of this). So the lady behind the counter claspsed her hands together bent forward slighty and asked me and how old are you sweety? i said i'm 23 why? she explained the new laws and asked for my ID and i said i had left it at home and she told me she couldnt/wouldnt sell the cold/flu tablets to me as she thought i looked 12!!!, i said to the lady (quite calmly i might add) excuse me madam since i turned 18 i've been told i look 16 i've never in my life been told i look 12 when i am indeed 23. I was annoyed at the time, but now look back and laugh.
My DP is only 3 years older than me, but he looks older than 26 and he has been asked on a few occassions how old his daughter is (meaning me) i've had to pull him away everytime for fear that he would get himself into some trouble.
I hope you girls realise this isn't going to change for a long time!!!
I WAS a young mum (but now I'm reeeeealy OLD - 34), and when people say "aren't you a bit young to have a teenager?, I just say YES!, smile and walk away.
Lulu2- I'm use to getting asked for ID and know this isnt going to change anytime soon, its just annoying sometimes as i know how old i am. I'll just have to grin an bear it
i was 21 when i had Krystal, DP was also 21. i dont know if i look young or old for my age, lol however i do feel a lot older since krystal arrived.. lol
i love the fact that we'll be 31 when she's 10 etc, i love being a young mum!! in our mothers group, i am by far the youngest (the other mums are in their 30s)
I was 22 in August
am now pregnant with my third child. Been married for 4 years, he's 10 years older then me but he doesn't really look it.
I get questions and surprised looks all the time and i always feel like i have to tell them i'm married and that it wasn't some accident even though if it were i still shouldn't have to explain myself... and then i tell them its my third lol...
It can be quite tough at times but it is getting a little better because i guess i'm starting to look older and acting more mature with time and as i'm learning as my kids grow up.
Its also really nice to see that i'm not the only one out there. My best friend is a young married mum too but she lives interstate and i dont get to see her very often.
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as do most of us on forums! I am 21 have 2 gorgeous girls n a luving hubby, also 21. Wen i got married 2 1/2 year ago ppl were saying we would neva last more than 6 mnths but they didn't understand that maturity is a state of mind not a thing that comes necessarily with age. thankfully my parents were young wen they got married n had kids so were understanding. My main thing to get past every1 who bags younger mums is they usually dont know u as well as they think they do n that can even b family. It may be hard 2 tell ur parents th@ it's ur decision 2 have the baby n they will always b related 2 it but u never no, they mite give u a very surprising good reaction. 
they do! If only u could choose ur family hey!
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