My DH and I first decided we wanted children in 2004 and first met with specialists at the end of 2008 in Melbourne where we learnt we needed to undergo ICSI IVF and then in 2009 we moved to Outback Qld which unfortunately there are not any specialists this far out.
We finally flew to Brissy in April and met with the wonderful team at QFG and we are now on the road to undergo IVF in September.
The hardest thing is that we have found out just this year of 26 pregnancies between our family and friends back in Melbourne, everytime I hear about another pregnancy, I seem to get more emotional even though I am very happy for them, I can't help but be more sad and sometimes I feel that I am being cold towards them but I try not to be, I just am hurting and I do feel bad for being a bit selfish, I am also hopeful that our time will come.
How do you get past the sadness and the feeling of "why isn't it happening for us"? Things that make it worse are when family and friends say "Don't worry, you are still young and have plenty of time", we even had a family member say "If you can't have children, it's not the end of the world" but to have our own family is our dream slightly feels like our world would crash. We know we can adopt and we will explore that option more if we are unsuccessful in IVF.
Anybody's advice is welcome on how to cope better with these situations?
Also like to hear of anyone in the same position or has been through it previously?