Hey, I know myself that if I didnt do everything I could within my power, Id be concerned about regret, you cant regret is you exausted all avenues. BUT, thats me. At the end of the day, you FS is the bed person to speak with, your DH and yourself. You learn alot about yourself through IVF, your limits, and when you get there, Im sure you'll know.
Hey,
I'm in a similiar situation...
We have just received our results - DF's were good, mine not so good.
My FS believes that I may have endometriosis & so I'm off for a laparoscopy next week After that, who knows - guess it depends on what he finds... Hopefully nothing & then IVF will start in Feb. (fingers & toes crossed)....
I turned 40 2 wks ago - gone into panic mode now....v anxious..
After googling, crying, googling some more, crying again...have decided to ignore the results, put on a brave face, focus on the positive & exhaust all avenues available. Oh - and also not to google!!
You just don't know until you try & I guess for me I don't want to have the regret of not trying everything...
I am in a similar situation with a high BMI and having been on clomid for 6 months now heading down the IVF road.
My DH has very poor sprem morphology (96% abnormal) so given that we've been referred to Fertility SA and after our initial appointment last month, we're hoping to start our first IVF cycle next month.
We knew that if we didn't try we would regret that decision for the rest of our lives, so we're going to give it a go so we can give our daughter a sibling.
Don't give up if it's something you really want. As everyone has said here, talk it through with your FS, and if it's right, go for it.
I can't give you much info about knowing someone with all the same things as you (pcos, weight issues etc) but I can tell you a positive story about a 40 year old woman who went through ivf.
A friend who met her partner late in life made the decision at 40 years old to keep trying IVF until it worked, and in the end had to do 7 cycles to become pregnant. Obviously the journey she went on was incredibly emotional and heart breaking every time a negative result was given to her and her husband, but she was determined to keep trying until it worked. To cut a long story short, she now has an extremely gorgeous baby boy and has never been happier in her life.
We all wish for our 1st ivf to be 'the one that works' and there's no reason why yours shouldnt (yes miracles do happen and occassionally it does work the first time). But I really want to give you hope if it unfortuanately it doesnt. I personally tried Ivf for the first time last year and when the result was negative, my mind and body basically shut down. I didnt think I could do it again because the pain was so bad that at times i didnt even leave the house. When I finally picked up the courage to try again for the second time, it worked and I am still in a state of shock. It proves that sometimes just a change in protocol is all it takes. Please don't give up if it doesnt work the first time because as hard as it is to go through, the pleasure of finally getting a bfp makes it all worthwhile. (Plus your FS wouldnt even suggest you go through this if he/she didnt think you had a chance of it working!)
Hi N2l,
I had severe endometriosis, our sperm donor had 92% abnormal forms, my FSH was way above yours (14) - yours is normal and my AMH was lower too (about 13 - yours is great for 39!) and I'm 33. It took 4 fresh and 5 frozen cycles (mostly transferring 2 embryos except the first 3 cycles) and gee, the pain, heartbreak, cost etc etc are soooo worth it now. I wish I could have forseen the future before I started... I kept thinking the whole time, what if I go through all this and we don't get a baby. I went through many cycles of being pessimistic and the last cycle, I had decided I was just going to keep going until we got there, no matter what (don't know whether this would have lasted though!). If you make sure to get emotional support, you should be ok through the IVF drama - here is a great place to get the support you will need. Good luck with your decision!
I just wanted to share my story. I am only 30 but have high BMI (36) and PCOS. DH has average motility but after doing 3 x OI with clomid (double doses ie 5 days then another 5 days in one cycle) with response only on first OI we redid DHs tests and found antisperm antibodies so went straight to IVF ICSI. We had to do a freeze all for the first IVF cycle as I over-responded to the IVF and got 23 eggs and developed OHSS. We too got very despondant about the whole process and wondered if we should still carry on, but with 8 embies on ice we went ahead with our first transfer and it worked for us.
I agree with others that your FS will let you know the real possibilities of the process working for you in your situation. I wish you all the best.
After that, who knows - guess it depends on what he finds... Hopefully nothing & then IVF will start in Feb. (fingers & toes crossed)....
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