Feeling lonely

[Bronze]

Hi,

Well after my second mc/chemical preg thing and curette last Monday I am now facing a 6 month break which my FS has recommended I take to give both my body and my mind a break.

Of course as soon as I heard this I felt relieved as it has been a rollercoaster but I am also sad to be stopping and of course in the last 2 days I have discovered 2 more friends are pregnant including my friend through my IVF clinic who was my only friend left that was struggling to conceive.

I feel that everyone I know has either had children and even if they went through IVF or similar all of them have now also had success and I am the only one still waiting for my turn. I am getting pretty disheartened and I know that a break is good, but .............

Anyway thanks for listening,

Bronze

Me -31, DH - 36
TTC - 4 years
IUI - cancelled no response
IVF 1 - Fresh transfer - Neg
IVF 2 - FET - Neg
IVF 3 - Fresh transfer - m/c at 8 weeks (Blighted ovum)
IVF 4 - FET - chemical preg or similar at 6 wks, curette

[Honeybee]

So sorry to hear of your loss, and your enforced TTC break Bronze. It's so hard when you're struggling and other people are getting pg. I don't have any advice, but didn't want to read and not post. Sending you lots of hugs. xxxx

[murraycod]

Bronze honey, I'm so sorry you are having such a hard time X
Hang in there, I know it's easy for me to say right now, I had an enforced break so I utilised it with FS to get some extra testing done, so I felt like I was atleast 'doing' something. During all those tests, we discovered I had NKcells, which pretty much prevent a pregnancy. Mabey you could utilise this time to get some extra testing done too XXXX
Good Luck

[onthefly]

You've had a rough time
I hope you can make the most of this break - do some lovely things just for yourself and your partner. I know it doesn't seem like it right now when all you want is to be pregnant, but sometimes a complete break from ttc can be just what we need.
All the best - I hope the next 6 months brings you wonderful things

[Maggie]

Hi Bronze,
I'm so sorry to hear what's happened. Life is so unfair. All I can say is that I hope the enforced rest gives your mind and body a chance to re-group. I hope that by the end of next year you get a healthy baby to love.
Hugs
Maggie

[Bronze]

Hi,

Just wanted to say thanks for the replies that I got to what I realise was my rather sad message.

I appreciate your thoughts. I am truly looking forward to a break and I am still so confident that at some point I will have a successful pregnancy, its just so hard sometimes.

Bronze

[hellosunshine]

Hi Bronze

I am new here, sorry for your loss, now you need to rest and forget about what had happened.

We alll here for you and always pray for you for your next ivf successful . Don't give up.

Most importantly now is Rest.

If u want u can pm me. I have a lot of things need to share with u.

Please take care.

Hellosunshine

[Yogi Bear]

Hi Bronze
I am new here too...and i know exactly how you are feeling, we are on a forced break at the moment and its just so hard to see everyone else around us fall pregnant and have babies and we are left behind watching them all get on with their lives. Its really hard sometimes but we just have to try and not compare ourselves to others...we have our own struggle at the moment, and everyone has their own struggles (not necessarily tcc). Anyway, guess i'm just saying "hi" and you are not alone. Please take care of yourselves.
big hello to others here...best of luck on your journeys
xxx

[Bronze]

Hi,

I don't know how to pm on this site, and thank you yogi and sunshine for your messages. It really helps to know that there are others who can empathise.

I am going to look at this break as a positive thing as my mind, my body and my finances definitely need the rest!!!

Thanks, Bronze

You could pm me or teach me how

[Shell30]

Hi Bronze

I am in exactly the same boat as you. I don't really have the answers as I could have written your post myself. I have also had friends who have stuggled to get pregnant but now they have their babies it is like they have forgotten the pain that infertility causes. It seems like we are always sharing in the joy of others patiently waiting for our turn.

If you dont feel ready for a break don't have one. You know your own body and mind. After the first IVF I was all set to go again, this time I know I need a small break.

It is a very painful, lonely journey this one that we are on.

Sending my love

Shell X

[onthefly]

Bronze you'll need to spend a little more time on BB and post a bit more before you become a Member, then you'll be able to access PMs. Good excuse to spend more time here

[tracey2010]

Hi Bronze, just a quick one, I am new too... thinking of you and wishing you all the best with next attempt...

[oneday86]

It is really hard isnt it?? im 23 and am now on my 3rd round of IVF/ICSI, 2 first rounds were unsuccessful! Im 23 and my husband is 25, he has no sperm motility and a low sperm count so we were given a 1% chance of concieving natrually. We were lucky we had 15 eggs collected and 4 made it to the end result, we had one transfered and 3 frozen. I think that i have given both rounds everyhting iv got, i was possitive and believed it would work straight up because we r young and i have no problems but it turns out thats not always how it works. This time round my husbamd and i have started to loose hope but i will never give up, i will try until i get our baby because this is all i have ever wanted. It is hard seeing other people pregnant and hearing close friends and family are, over my time of trying my brothers partner has been pregnant and had their child and now my sister is pregnant and iv had a number of friends and people i work with fall pregnant and i also work in childcare!!so i see it everyday but i suppose we all just have to find a way to get through it and just believe it will be our turn one day. I hope this has helped.