The wonderful thing about free advice is often that it is worth what you pay for it...especially from those who have not experienced what you are! As everyone else has said, you and your DH are the only ones that can know when you need to take a break or what course you need to follow. Talking it over with your FS or the councillors at the clinic can also help if you want to discuss options or 'what ifs'. We found it really hard to talk to family and friends as they were often more interested in where we were with cycles than how we were feeling or what we were thinking . The councillor really helped me in particular to think about what we could do moving forward.

In terms of your worries about damage to your body - I would talk to your FS to get some expert advice, but I am pretty sure that while there are risks from undergoing IVF (eg OHSS) the use of the treatments long term is not really one of them (but please check this with an expert). I think that we are at risk of mental exhaustion and stress more than the physical over the long term! Changing clinics - always a good thing to get a second opinion - irrispective of if you end up changing or not. If you have any doubts about your FS, then see another if only to confirm that you are on the right track. As those around you that are offering 'advice' - it is often the hardest thing to deal with. I became pretty good at changing the subject and in a few cases just said straight out that if they could not offer anything positive then not to talk about it! Something I read said that undergoing fertility treatment puts the same stress on you as someone fighting a life threatning illness faces. To me that puts into context the stress that we undergo and the support that we need - and should expect - from those around us. Unfortunatly we are often dissapointed.

I wish you and your DH the best of luck. It is great that you have those frosties in the freezer