DH unable to attend 1st nurses consulation

[Saffy]

My Dh didn't even go to one of our frozen transfers!! He was away for work I think. My mum came instead.
AND i got a BFP lol

[Pholi]

Having someone else there instead might be useful, if he can't make it. A mother, friend, or sister, perhaps?

I wanted DH there as much as possible partly so we would share the process, make decisions together etc, (we also had MFI, but it's still the woman who goes through the vast majority of the intervention!) But I also wanted him there to be a backup set of ears and eyes, so that later, I had someone to ask 'What did they say about this again? How important did she say it was to take this med at the same time each day? I take this cap off before I dial up the dose, right?' I had someone to remind me of all this.

Any time DH missed an appointment, or a blood test result, I'd get him on the phone as soon as I could and talk it through with him.

[Renvind]

Hey everyone,

I just thought I would let you know how my nurse appt (without DH) went...

As suggested by all you wonderful women who responded, it went fine! I was really worried about going by myself, and I truly don't have anyone else who could have come instead of DH, but it all went well....

The nurse was so lovely. It felt so nice to talk to someone about this journey so frankly and clinicly, without the feeling that you're talking to someone about a dirty secret - wierd I know, but it was good. DH felt bad about not being able to come, so I felt good reassuring him after the appt that it all was fine. I think that took a lot of pressure of him as well. I felt sorry for him after our FS appt (the day before the nurses appt) as he was told the news that his first super bad SA was outdone by an even worse 2nd SA...he didn't say anything but I could tell he was gutted...

Anyway, for anyone else who is faced with DH not being able to attend some of the appts...don't despair...it's all ok...I think there is way too much pressure with this IVF journey without adding to the "expectation" of what's "appropriate" for our partners to do. I think at the end of the day its about what you are ok with...and I was definatley ok with my hubby not being able to come...

Thanks to everyone who was very reassuring!