Extremely embarrassing question...has taken me months to ask!

[monnie]

Had my first egg transfer in December.

Hoping I don't sound like an absolute freak (I'm actually pretty normal) and please try hard not to laugh at me....but the MOST embarrassing thing happened during the procedure. Not sure if it was because I was pumped full of hormones or feeling a little 'deprived', but during the procedure I started having this feeling...waves of muscle contractions...didn't realise what they were at first...but there was a familiarity and then I realised...I think I was actually having an orgasm. Of course, I was absolutely mortified...embarrassed, ashamed...pick your word! It was horrible. I felt so exposed, vulnerable and most of all, like an absolute freak.

Couldn't look the doctor in the face, or the nurse...it was horrific. Honestly, the most humiliating experience of my life. And to top it off, it was a BFN.

Anyway...after months of delays (both unintentional and intentional), I'm going back for my final round of IVF.

I'm so scared it might happen again...and have even thought about no longer trying as I'm so scared it might...but I know I couldn't live with myself. Just wanted to know...has anyone ever had this happen to them or know of it ever happening? I've looked everywhere on the web but can't find anything.

Any ideas?

[Saffy]

Oh dear, that is embarrassing...surely the dr and nurses didn't know?? They probably just thought you were doing you pelvic floor exercises to help keep the embie in?!? ( clutching at straws here)

It makes sense though- hormones, someone fiddling around down below,maybe they were touching your G spot with instruments??. I'm sure you would not be the first one that it happened to so try not to dwell on it. you are definately not a freak, you have normal bodily functions like everyone else. Imagine if guys had people fiddling with them for IVF- it would happen all the time!!

And to top it all off a BFN- that sucks.

Anyway, onwards and upwards, please don't let it put you off trying again, as no one will even remember it except you. To try and prevent it happening, number1; I imagine you will be so stressed about it that it would be unlikely to happen again, and number 2; can you or your partner, ahem, 'take care of yourself' prior to the transfer?? It would be less likely to happen then I imagine.

I'll share a recent embarrassing story with you- I recently got a BFP via IVF, so DH and I have been abstinent for a while cos Im on progesterone pessaries ( too messy). The other morning I woke up to find myself having a spontaneous orgasm in my dream, was so shocked when I woke up,especially as it gave me the WORST cramping that lasted all day- i was so panicked that i was giving myself a miscarriage because of my 'wet dream ' or whatever you would all it. So you are not the only one having random orgasms while under the influence of ivf drugs!!

Best of luck for your next cycle too xx

[rae]

You seem so embarrassed, you poor thing. Maybe the ultrasound probe rubbed against your G spot? I'm sure if it happened to you then it has happened to other women too! Even if it is rare or hasn't happened to your FS or nurses before, I'd say that as people who deal with vaginas and wombs they know what they do, IYKWIM. Doctors and nurses are so focused on your health and doing their job they wouldn't get distracted by it even if they did notice, a female orgasm isn't necessarily all that noticable....and an orgasm is a perfectly natural physical thing. I guess it's like when women accidentally do a little poo when they're giving birth. No one judges it's just the body being forced into physical actions by pressure being applied.

If it makes you feel any better, I had a general for my transfer. I have physical and emotional issues about my cervix being opened and knew that there was a very big risk that I would just not be able to deal with it. So, I just had "a little sleep" and woke up shortly after, and it was so easy and totally not embarrassing or painful or a fuss. It was the first time my FS had ever had the request but he agreed to do it. It adds costs on and it means you need to have someone collect you afterwards like it was an egg collection, but I can't recommend it enough if you are feeling like you just couldn't handle it.

[monnie]

Thankyou so much!

I was incredibly embarrassed and now, 8 months later, can only talk about it.

I'm trying to see the funny side of it...because, admittedly, it is sort of funny! Who would have thought that would be a perk of an embryo transfer?

Anyway, just googling "orgasm and ultrasound" and apparently it does happen...so I feel, a little less freakish.

Really appreciate you taking the time to answer...

And Rae, that's a great idea...loved the anaethestic during the retrieval, so maybe I should look into this.

Again, thankyou!

[rae]

I think that if we felt embarrassed about all the things we have to do with ivf we'd never be able to get through it. It's chatting while someone has a giant probe up my hoo hoo that I find more embarrassing than the actual fact that I have my pants off and they are holding something up my hoo hoo. I just get so embarrassed that I am expected to carry on a conversation with someone I may have never met before, while they are doing something that could be considered "Sexual" to me 'specially when it hurts and they apologise! Heh heh. I really get embarrassed when they have to call someone in, which seems to always happen to me, then I have an audience! But I think it's best if we acknowledge that if they aren't embarrassed to be doing stuff to us with our pants off then there's no reason that we should be either!

[Glamourcide]

Monnie, I haven't been on the IVF rollercoaster, so obviously I don't know what's involved in these sorts of procedures, but it makes perfect sense that you'd experience a reaction like that - as a PP said, maybe an instrument just rubbed the 'wrong' spot during the procedure I'm sure Drs who specialise in working with these sorts of things see it often, especially if you're taking medication that is boosting certain hormones! I've been in the position where a simple temperature check in my ear has gotten me pretty goosebumpy (itms lol), for me my ears are very sensitive and a delicate touch there can send shivers down my spine to all the right places, even if it's in the most inappropriate setting You're definitely not a freak, I really hope this doesn't stop you trying again for a bub Best of luck! x

[onthefly]

Hi Monnie! Long time no see

I totally appreciate why you feel embarrassed about this. But.... how nice would it be if we had the same fun with our 'procedures' that the blokes get doing their bit and were relaxed enough to enjoy it.

I have heard of women having spontaneous orgasms during different procedures. You're certainly not a freak. All the best

[nickle730]

monnie, unless you closed your eyes and started moaning I'll bet no one even noticed! I can understand why it feels embarrassing to you, but don't let it stop you from trying again.

Hormones do funny things to us, when I was pg with Miss P I had 'wet dreams' most nights! I found myself in a constant state of arousal from about 10 weeks onwards and I did 'O' at some very inopportune moments with minimal stimulation - the vibration of the car would set me off!! I'm sure no one else noticed.

I hope there is a BFP around the corner for you.